I have a 16 month old wants to be held "up" all the time. No matter what I am doing: cooking, getting a glass of water, dishes, or fixing his food, just about every time I am standing. My husband and I are going crazy with this. We don't always pick him up. We do let him cry and I do get down to eye level and tell him that he is just fine standing by himself. I have tried to get him involved with other activities ie fridge magnets, tv, toys etc... So some help would be nice. I do watch Super Nanny and Nanny 911, but they have never dealt with this situation as yet. I know that he is very curious and wants to see everything. I just don't want this to gone on much longer. He is getting very heavy. Thanks for the serious answers.
2007-03-25 01:59:11 · 8 answers · asked by Raven98 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Ok everyone, He does have a cupboard for his stuff and has had it for over 9 months. I swap out the toys every week so that he doesn't get bored and there is something new for him to play with. I asked for opinions on what to do, not to be ragged on by any of you. For those of you who have given real answers, thank you. For those of you who rag on ppl, it sure makes for others not to use this website and that is sad...
2007-03-25 15:55:02 · update #1
I thonk I have seen Super Nanny Joe deal with this...she gave the kid an activity and place real close to where you will be working. She then told them "Mommy, going to cook dinner but I will be right back to check on you."
See how that goes...if the baby comes to you then say you can try to reintroduce the acitivity or give them a bowl and spoon to play with while they are in a chair. Explain the rules that...you will cuddle them after dinner and bath. Be firm, tell them that they only get three warnings about it being pick up then put them in the naughty spot.
2007-03-25 02:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your child is always interseted in what you're doing why not try putting him in the high chair next to you where ever you are so he can see what you're doing. Example if your cooking obviously you don't want him to close for fear he might get burnt, but talk to him as you're cooking let him know what's going on. Maybe he can even help with dinner. Let him wash the veggies or fruit. Little kids like playing in the water. If your washing dishes maybe let him rinse the plastic ones. If he can be a part of what your doing or be able to see what's going on maybe eventually he'll get tired of the same old same old and want go off and try something new.
2007-03-25 09:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your definitely making a rod for your own back there if you keeping picking them up every time. I'm not super nanny by any means, but I have three children and my youngest is or was just like that. You do have to be firm (strict seems to be a poor choice of word) and they will cry, but as my health visitor said when I was going through this, as long as they are safe, no child was ever in danger from crying, trust me they soon stop when they dont get their own way.
Have faith good luck
2007-03-25 09:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Basil Cheese Wrench III 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to use a good backpack, that's the only way I could get dishes washed and things clean in evenings, or cook the dinner. Kids definitely wanted to see everything that's going on. I tired this with my grandson - 18 months - however, and, because it wasn't a regular routine, he wasn't used to regular backpack use, it didn't work. With grandson we have one drawer in the kitchen devoted to him. Yes, we are tripping over him and it's dangerous, but... also, we move highchair right next to sink, and fill it with a bit of water, he loves to splash that around while watching me take care of business..
2007-03-25 09:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by hanging around 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious.......................EXACTLY who is the parent here................................
Magnets on the frig is great but go one step further.
When my 3 were small, I set aside a lower cupboard just for them. Half was filled with Tupperware and the other half filled with cookie sheets, etc. The kids knew this was their cupboard to play in and they never touched any others.
I just refused to spend hours holding any of them while I was doing anything.
2007-03-25 14:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually Supernanny dealt with this topic quite recently (March 17th). If you can get hold of the episode it should really help you out. Or consider buying her books. Here are the links:
http://abc.go.com/primetime/supernanny/index?pn=epguide
http://abctvstore.seenon.com/index.php?v=abcsupfan
Good luck!
2007-03-27 00:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is exactly the same , he always wants me to pick him up all the time ,follows me every where.
In the Wild, baby monkeys stay clinged onto there mother And follewed her around til they were ready to live alone, Humans and monkeys have similar emotions and there have been studies we all need our mums contact and comfort.
my son knows with me im always going in and out of rooms all day he obviously wants me to carry him everywhere because he dosnt like being alone.
2007-03-25 09:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Feedback
2007-03-25 09:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by Gay R 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋