My parents are fighting so much! My mom is so mean to my dad and my mom wants a seperation and...?

Question

I'm realllyy upset anythig to help me or give me a heads up(I"m 12)

Answer 1

It is hard for a child to witness the two most important people in their life fight. I grew up with my parents fighting quite a bit. It is inevitable for any couple to fight at times.

In your case, it sounds like your parents may get out of hand and this of course scares you. I know- I've been there. Your Mom is probably very unhappy in the marriage and that is why she seems to be so mean. Women and men are so different in their needs. You Mom works hard and gave up a lot when she chose to be your mother. I'm sure she loves you very much and would not be too happy to hear of your fears.

I suggest you sit confront your Mom, privately. Tell her you get really scared and uncomfortable when her and your Dad fight. You need to let her know because I am sure she would never want you to feel this way. Talk to her. Hopefully, she can lean on your shoulder too. She may need a big hug from you.

I hope your Mom and Dad either agree on a separation or work things out. It is so sad to hear a child being so upset, over parents fighting. Good luck Honey!

Answer 2

It's awful when things like that happen. The worst part is that doing anything to get them to reconciliate might just get them mad at you, and it will never work even if they do try for your sake- they're just doing it for your sake and it won't last and they won't be happy if it does.

Nobody will blame you for getting upset and it's perfectly fine to be upset. But you should talk to your best friend/ sister about this. They'll keep your spirits up.

On your parent's end, talk to your dad, perhaps. Let him know that you feel that your mum is being horrible too, and gain his support so that both of you will be together at least.

Or you could talk to your mum and let her know that all this is affecting you a lot.

However, you may not know the reason why your mum is so mean to your dad. Something may have happened that they're not willing to tell you about. Talk to whichever parent you're closer too, and you'll hopefully get across the idea that it's affecting you and potentially your studies.

Answer 3

The only thing you can do is perhaps sit down with them both and let them know that the situation is tearing you apart. Ask them if the family could go to some kind of counseling or church organization for help.

If your parents no longer get along, it's because of the two of them, not you. I'm sure they love you more than anything but sometimes two people can just not be together.

I'm divorced with two kids and I know it's been very hard on them, but the best thing you can do is to keep loving your parents as you always have and hope for the best. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 4

im 12 too, and my parents are seperated. Sometimes thats just better for your parents. I hated how my parents seperated, and now im living at my grandparents. its been 10 months and i cant take it anymore, but i think that you just keep hope for the future, and even though you love both of your parents, and you dont want them to seperate, it will be better for everyone. you need to realize that your parnets wont stop fighting until they're seperated and even then theyll still fight for custody which really stinks.

I know how you feel, stuck in the middle and just want everyone to be happy. its like a fantasy, everything will be happy and there will be no fighting, just like a normal family.

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Answer 5

There really isnt much you can do about your parents fighting but to sit them both down and tell them how you feel. If they both want a seperation, maybe its best.

Answer 6

Does your dad hit your mom often? If he does that, you should tell him to stop. If he does not stop, you should call the cops (911). Some people are not right for each other.
It's not your fault, they both love you. You could talk to them individually and see if they could work it out.

Answer 7

Hugs((((Gabby)))))I'm sorry you are experiencing that. you might try telling them what their fighting is doing to you. It won't settle their problems but they may tone down the fights so that you don't suffer as much.

Answer 8

Please try not to take their arguing personal. If you feel that you can do it comfortably, talk with each parent separately about how their behavior toward each other makes you feel.