whats worse?

Question

trying to "change" ur boyfriend for the better.. or letting them do what they do even if though its bad just because they enjoy it (like u'd rather see them happy more than anything..)??

..okay i asked this before so i think i should explain myself .. my boyfriend drinks abit and i know its bad for him and in a sense he knows it as well except he likes it and says it makes him feel better.. i know he has better alternatives but i dont want to have to get him to stop because its one of his attributes, but if i dont.. then how horrible would it be if something had to happen???

uhm.. he also has high blood pressure aswell and isnt good with dealing with anger and stuff... so yah .. i worry bout him sometimes

Answer 1

You can not change people, they have to want to change themselfs

Answer 2

U must realise that YOU CANT CHANGE ANYONE - they have to change themselves..... there is a classic line that goes "you cant help those that dont want to help themselves"

I believe that you deserve someone as sensible as yourself and as caring - one thing I would do and I would stick to my guns is give him a choice - either show he cares more about you than his stupid drinking (occassional drinking is ok but this is boarderline addiction - and Im sure you are aware of it thus your concern) or lose you...... truely sister, someone with any addiction and with anger management problems is no one you want to be involved with.... it will only get worse.

Good luck - hope you love yourself more than you love him.
God Bless

Answer 3

First of all, you cannot change anyone who doesn't want to change. If he does not change at your urging, and this really bugs you, then it may be time to start looking for another boyfriend.

Answer 4

Sounds like you are dating an alcoholic to me, this will only end in tears.