2007-03-25 00:26:17 · 14 answers · asked by Sunflower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been trying to figure that one out for the last three years. Good luck.
2007-03-25 00:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts alot at first, when you have cryed enough and accepted that they dont return the love you grow stronger. Time heals all wounds - this is so true, especially of a broken heart.
I have had a very bad loss - loved a guy so much he changed my life then he left me and I was devistated...we really didnt have any problems but he chose to move on - this hurt because I couldnt understand it at the time....
What I did - I remembered all the great qualities about him, remembered all the good times and thanked God I was lucky enough to have experienced these times and have known this person. I asked God to help me find someone who is like this person but better, someone who will love me in return... I think I found someone with all the attributes I loved but this new person has a little more to offer ....
...so what Im getting at is you never know what is around the corner, do your best to get over it soon, but do greive your loss, so that you can allow a new person into your heart. This is hard and I feel for you, almost everyone has experienced this or will experience this in their life and there is always alot to learn about yourself when you go through it.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-25 00:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by gudsport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not easy to forget someone you love and instead of returning the love you offer brings back pains and hurt to you. forget that person and find someone whom you can love and love you in return, time heals everythind. i know today it's not easy but as time goes on you will forget that person. try mingling with others and maybe you can find the person you're looking for
2007-03-25 00:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by honey_106 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. Finally something i can identify with. Thank god for life cycles.
Anyway, it hurts like **** at first, and don't we all just LOVE to pity ourselves with thoughts of "oh he does not love me, when my heart was all for him, blah blah blah"?
Yeah, the first step is to steer away from that. Don't deny- we all know how good it feels to self pity, everyone does it at some point of time in life, the difference lies in whether they're strong enough to lower its usage the next time or not. so simply, stop feeling pitiful for yourself. makes the healing process much faster.
second step is simply, to get a life. once you're done with the moody brooding etc, you're on your way to the healing road. go out, make new friends, learn a new sport- these are things that will take up space in your thoughts, and leave less space for thinking about person who didnt love u back.
third is to keep looking forward and NEVER look back. don't for a MOMENT look past your shoulder; unless you want to skip to advanced step 29, which is, to face your problem in the eye once and for all.
by this, i mean to expose yourself to elements that can ignite/evoke feelings or relive past experiences about ANYTHING to do with the person who did not requit your love.
nah, it won't kill you, in fact, i highly recommend it because it will make you stronger.
anyway, last tip: have faith. in whatever. in life, in future love, in God, in family- faith reaps a whole bunch of good stuff, so much so, you'll be on your way to forgetting about it faster than you can say out the 101 poems/whatevers you wrote for that person.
lol.
2007-03-25 05:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God!It's difficult!I'm in love with a guy for almost 3 years....I've been out with a lot of boys this time,but it didn t help-i even some friends because of that!try not to be around him...this may help you a bit...go out with your friends and take care of you!
2007-03-25 00:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by sauvage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean...trust me! I've been there and had many long nights with myself trying to figure it out!! But I couldn't untill I started dating.....By dating and finding another guy that replaces him for the time being, I kinda kept myself busy, and slowly got over it, but then I still have feelings for him...
2007-03-25 00:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by prettybella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat yourself up about it, move on. After breakups me & my friends get together for a girls night. Sleepover, movies, shopping etc.. Talk to eachother about stuff and how lame the guy/girl was anyways.
2007-03-25 00:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by ___² 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same here. love sucks that way. we all know what we need to do -- forget about him and move on. but our heart tells us otherwise. it's a tough call. good luck to all of us!
2007-03-25 00:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by schatz101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you have to do is try to bring in a strong feeling that you dont even know that person.try concentrating on your goals.i have undergone the same situation.i know it is difficult.but if you give it a try,then you would be able to.believe me,i used to like that guy for three years.and he doesnt even realise it,though i told him how sincerely i like him.
2007-03-25 00:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take what you have learned and move on to a new relationship. The sooner you start looking, the sooner you will find somebody.
2007-03-25 00:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋