since i was a kid, my mom always abused me n all, i dont know why.. and now im 19, i still dont have a gud relationship with her, as if im not hers. it hurts seeing how she treats my other siblings better than me, i never talk back to her everytime she sees red.. sigh.
2007-03-25 00:25:27 · 4 answers · asked by maya820 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
who knows? some parents have an easier time raising sons than daughters or the other way around. some moms feel threatened by their daughters. they get older, their girls get prettier and about to venture forth into the world. sometimes daughters can show mom up and accomplish more than she ever did at the same age. hard to say. but you're 19 now and you can decide to do several things. have a heart2heart talk with mom about your feelings and try to move your relationship from adult-child to adult-adult; you can just cut her loose and decide you don't need the grief anymore or you can make no changes. i would recommend you try the first or second option at least. decide what you want and go for it. good luck.
2007-03-25 11:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by rainyday 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
"The chicks will not get crippled when the Hen stomps on them" - Tamil proveb.
Think everything is for your betterment. Once you are free (in marriage) you will neglect this condition, sometimes you will yearn for her closeness. This is the upbringing she has categorized for you, so as to say that you will be a prime example for the other siblings to grow in its own.
What you lost with her, try to regain from your father. There's a good time to approach her 'when on her illness'. You could help your siblings and the home chores for her to overcome in such situations, at least her appreciation will console you.
Talk not to her in the manner as she frowned at you. The stress of women in controlling and running affairs of her home are rather unseen to our naked eyes and minds. She may have been stressed or retarded in some corner of her life, which seems reflecting in her habituals.
Remember, you will weep for her one day. Because she is your own mother. Be a good girl to your parents, God will love you, and you will conquer over shame and negligence.
Your patience should not sow the seeds of hatred, instead be diligent it should shovel away your sighs.
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What Shakespeare never wrote is _ Mother is a Mother is a Mother, but Rose is a Rose is a Rose. (pity)
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Read: "Outsider"- Albert Camus' lament on the importance of a mother.
2007-03-25 00:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by RexRomanus 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if she wont be your friend and mother, and your trying, then it might be better off to just let her go and move on. You dont deserve a mother who doesnt see you as treasure but instead treats you like trash. If you talk to her and work it out, then maybe she will get the hint. But good luck!
2007-03-25 00:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Same with me, my mom likes to hurt me and treat my little brother better. I'm not sure why though. I'm too afraid to ask.
2007-03-25 00:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by ___² 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋