Should I give up? Pls advise?

Question

I had fallen in love with this girl. I had express my love to her. SHe told me she was not ready and don't not wish to commit anything at present. But in future she won't know. ( I guess her last relationship hurt her a lot and She don't have self confidence as she alway think she look bad)

Every weekday i will call and wake her up to wake as she has problem waking up. Whenever i ask if she need me to wake her up.. she nvr reject me and usually say yes. ( I guess she is not avoiding or shooing me away)

Now the problem is: Whenever i am warm to her.. she seem very cold. The warmer i get, the colder she become. I bought her gift on occasions. When i ask whether she want me to buy her fav chocolate. she will be delight and said yes. When she is sick, i send her movies and soup. She will just text me a short msg "Thanks :)"

Last year we used to be very involved & each each other often. Most of the time she first text me. Suddenly it died down and alway i m the first to text her.

After i express my feeling to her. We still continue to text each other but less. After valentine day. I sent her flowers to her workplace. She never said anything about it. Her cold attitude hurt me in a sense.

I know she is avoiding a relationship from starting. I have not objective to that as i m not ready too.

What you guy think.. Is she not interested with me?
Should i wait for her?

Honest answer will help. Thanks

Answer 1

Save your money and stop calling. Find some one new and see how they react to your attention. If this girl sees you are gone shemay come after you but she may not. What does it matter? She is not responding to you anyway. Move on.

Answer 2

I would have to say that if she was hurt it may take a while and sometimes longer than we want to get over someone and I would hate to assume she was using you. I would suggest that you contact her maybe 2-3 times a week just to say Hi! and stop the affection and pampering, this is only setting you up for hurt, and allow yourself to see other people. Do not put your life on hold, she may not be the one for you and you could miss an opprotunity being loyal to her when the feelings are obviously not returned. You may get a surprise when she realizes you are not severing your ties but leaving your options open. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I hate saying this but yeah, I think she may just want to be friends. There was this boy who was really nice to me and everything years ago, he was the sweetest thing and I always brushed him off because I was too shy, now that I think of it I was really cold to him. I don't think you should give up though, it may take time. But don't waste all of your time on a silly girl. You could be doing so many other things than spending your time and money on someone who shows no thanks to you. Ultimately it is your call though..

Answer 4

what you should do, lie low with communicating with her, following her, calling her. if you text him non-stop per day, try texting her only twice or thrice a week. then see her reaction towards your actions. if she will try texting you first, calling you first, following you, then maybe she likes you but is still not ready to commit, so you should wait. maybe she just needs time and space with everything she has gone to.

Answer 5

its nice to have someone doing all that pampering but i dont think she wants to have anything other than that to do with you. i have a feeling she's using you. so y dont u stop pushing her and move on.

Answer 6

Its so obvious that u wont be getting a miracle.SO GIVE UPAND MOVE ON DUDE

Answer 7

sorry but she is using you,,,move on