After you discover that he is illerate, you then hire a private tutor for him he chooses not to attend the sessions, and as a result of this, he cannot gain decent employment to support his family. What do you do?
2007-03-25 00:05:55 · 12 answers · asked by sweet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Well, EXCUSE ME for having serious flaws I refuse to work on!" -Homer Simpson
Seriously, don't waste your time on anyone with no self-worth, ambition, or goals in life. It's a no-brainer.
2007-03-25 00:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by trai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two issues here, first the lie. Whilst no lie is good or excusable, he obviously did this because its a big thing not being able to read or write and was obviously embarrased and has spent his whole life hiding it from everyone, so to lie about it was "normal" behaviour. Not striving to overcome this given the opportunity is a whole different thing and you need to get to the bottom of the reason why, does he not want to, or did he just find it too difficult and felt overwhelmed, facing something you have lived with as such a big secret for so long cannot be easy, you have to ask him why, and help him from there, good luck to you
2007-03-25 07:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him yes, but it looks like you may be better off leaving him. If you offered to help get his life back on track and he refused, it shows how much he really wants to support his family.
I would talk to him and tell him that if he is not going to work with the tutor, that you are not going to be with a man who can't support you.
2007-03-25 07:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by ___² 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide if you want to care him and a family for the res of your life and know that pregnancy will be a finacial burden since it will take you out of the workplace.
2007-03-25 07:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is embarassed about being illiterate which is understandable. If he has a job and is happy then maybe leave him alone. He believes he is doing his best I understand you want him to do better but it is up to him.
2007-03-25 07:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you leave. He's a liar, and not tying to improve himself, even when the help is free.
There are guys who can read who will work to improve thier life, find one, or you'll be fixing this guy forever.
2007-03-25 07:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help him as best as you can.
If you are not married I suggest you to leave him as he has lied about somthing serious, he doesn't want to accept the help either.....find someone who will appreciate you....
2007-03-25 07:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No- he had a chance to better himself for you- and he chose freely not to.
2007-03-25 07:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by pavano_carl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends how you feel about this man are u willing to work throught the problems
2007-03-25 07:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ray T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love him enough to look pass that. and get him some teaching lessons
2007-03-25 07:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by His Child 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋