My ex is doing what?

Question

So me and my ex have been broken up for a few months now. Before she hated me, i mean she literally said "I hate you" but lately, she's been acting nice toward me and vaugely letting me know that she's still single. We had a good relationship, VERY good, it just ended badly. How should I go about this? What should I do? What is she doing?

She broke up with me over something really silly and resolvable, our only problem was her; she was afraid to open up to me. Also, we had been dating for a little over a year

Answer 1

Your ex is letting you know that she might be interested in getting back together on some level, either as friends or as a dating couple.

Without knowing the cause of your break up it is hard to suggest anything really.

I think it is your choice to make. You know her better then anyone who might offer you advice here.

I could speak in general, but this again is not the correct way to address an individual concern.

If you want to date her again, maybe the two of you need to start off slowly and establish some clear boundaries so you do not make the same mistake(s) that pushed or pulled you apart the first time around.

Answer 2

Without knowing who ended the relationship in the first place, I'm just going to guess that it was her since she seemed so angry with you. Two possibilities. 1) Her anger is subsiding. She realizes that you had something good, but doesn't want to come out and say that because she'll look like a fool for having said certain things, so she wants you to make the first move towards reconciliation. 2) She still hates you, she just wants to know that you are still available to her if she were ever to change her mind. She's wanting to keep you on the backburner, to prevent you from moving on.....evil..... You'll know its the second if you ask her if she'd like to try again, and she instantly recoils and becomes unavailable again. If so, she's just playing games. Run.

Answer 3

I would ask her. If you think she is sending you mixed signals, there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to ask her if you are still interested. First, you should think about why you are interested. Why did it end? (More for you to think about it, not necessarily for me to know). Are you just thinking about the good times you had? Maybe she is remembering the good times too. Can you guys get over whatever the bad ending was? Hate is a very strong word and usually people don't mean it to that extent. You have to think very hard and if you are truly interested in getting back together with her, you should communicate openly and honestly. If you don't communicate and are not honest, you do not have a relationship.

Answer 4

My two cents;

If the reasons for the bad breakup haven't gone away then you should let things stay broken up.

Only if whatever those reasons were have truly been fixed, then can you consider getting back into a relationship with her.

She's probably realizing that it may have been a mistake to have let things end badly with you.

Or, should could just be flirting with you trying to get you to make a move so she can drop the "You're joking!" hammer on you.

Good luck.

Answer 5

She probably misses you and is realizing that she wants you back.

From personal experience if the relationship ended poorly, after the hearts and flowers stage it will be bad again.

There are likely very hurt feelings between the two of you and those feelings may dimminish but will never fade.

I, knowing what I know now, would give up on the relationship.

Answer 6

It sounds like she might be thinking about getting back together. Somebody that says they hate you are not indifferent to you - think about it; strangers on the street don't come up to you to say they hate you. Hate is one form passion can take.
It's up to you, but why did you break up in the first place? If those issues aren't resolved between you two, chances are it's just a setup for a replay of the same tragedy.

Or, to quote Karl Marx: History repeats itself, first as tragedy, second as farce.

Answer 7

What do you want is the real question. You need to figure out where you want this to go, it sounds as though she is willing to give it another try. Keep in mind, an x is an x for a reason. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 8

mayb it's not that she hates you. mayb she hates the way you ended your relationship with her which has lead her to say that she hates you. and at the same time, maybe she wants to get back at you, not with you. if she's acting nice to you now, beware. she can outsmart you in the process. she may be trying to make it seem that the two of you are still friends and that she's interested, but if she's really attached to her friends now, she may only be doing that to you to make it look good in front of her friends, and make it seem like the two of you ended on good terms.

Answer 9

By "how should i go about this" it sounds like you want to try again. No one can tell you what to do,but if you want to talk to her and see what's still there go ahead. But if it ended badly,you might just re-hash the problems. You know what you should do if you just listen to your gut. Best of luck!!

Answer 10

Seems to me that she needed some time to heal and think about what happened and what went wrong to end your relationship, and now that she's had that time, she is ready to get back into a relationship...with you. I think you and her should talk it over and get back together.