I have a boyfriend and I found out that he likes a couple of other girls, I told him I was fine with it as long as he is honest to me and he loves me more and doesnt cheat on me. Do you agree with this or am I wrong in thinking this?
2007-03-24 07:11:44 · 17 answers · asked by Sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 14 and i dont think its wrong to be attracted to other people while going out with someone else, but the reason i want him to be completely honest with me about how much he likes other people, is because he won't break up with me whether or not he likes other girls more then he likes me and i want him to be happy. to me honesty is the most important thing i dont want him to have to pretend like i am the only person he likes, because you cant really help who you like or fall in love with, I want to be able to trust him, and if he is honest with me and tells me that he likes other girls, then this shows I can trust him and I can talk to him if i am uncomfortable with him hanging around girls he is attracted to, I am okay with him liking other people because I know that he's going to and just because he likes other people doesnt mean he doesnt love me [i use the word love loosely btw i have no idea what love is i admit it] and I don't want to be hypotcritical since I like another guy
2007-03-25 08:35:16 · update #1
Wow that was an extremely long run-on sentance, I hate it when I use horrible grammar anywhere but IMing and texting
2007-03-25 08:36:53 · update #2
I think you have a low self worth. Get some self-esteem, break up with the guy and find someone who is into you and you only.
2007-03-24 07:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by ark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to be attracted to someone else while you are in a relationship with another person. That's human nature. You can't turn off your feelings just because you're involved with someone. However, I do think it's inappropriate for your partner to discuss his attraction to other members of the opposite sex with you. That type of thing should be unspoken between partners. You told him that you are fine with it as long as "he loves you more and doesn't cheat on you" First of all, I don't think that you are fine with it because you posted your question, and secondly, how do you know he "loves you more and is not cheating on you"? Because he says so? A person can say anything that they want, be it a lie or the truth. Next time he tells you he likes Susie or Jane or Kristin, ask him who does he want to be with. If he says he wants to be with Susie, Jane or Kristin, let him go. If he says you, tell him, then never to mention Susie, Jane or Kristin again. It's all about you. Realize that your man is going to be attracted to other girls (just as you are probably attracted to other guys), but also realize that you deserve respect and I think it is very disrespectful for a man to share with his girlfriend his attraction to other woman...and vice versa.
2007-03-24 14:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is thinking about these other girls then he is not emotionally commited to you. There is a big difference between looking at an attractive person in passing and thinking about them on a regular basis. I myself believe in emotional infidelity being as hurtful as physical infidelity(cheating). If you were ok with this, I suspect you woould not have asked for advice.
2007-03-24 14:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it is fair i like some guys while im going out with a guy but i dont love them as much i think its fine you did the right thing. the only thin is if he is paying more attention to them then you than kthe lord he tells you the truth.
2007-03-24 14:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by Grace W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound pretty young because a mture experienced person wouldn't put up with something like that.First of all if he likes you he wont be interested in other girls.How old are you?Lose that zero and find a hero young lady!
2007-03-24 14:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by SAPFYAH99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he clearly has his back up plan when you deceide to ditch out or if you guys get into, he has someone to run to and then do damage...extra tagalongs, not a good sign! he sounds like a complete flake to me. Would you tell him, yea, I like you but I also HAVE MY EYES on this guy and this other guy. It sounds like a threat to me...RUN!
2007-03-24 14:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u shudnt be as forgiving. if he likes someone else u better watch out bigtime because you never know when he could start flirting with them. to tell the truth, id dump him.
2007-03-24 14:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by soccergod7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? It's stupid and shows disrespect for who you are dating and your relationship. It also shows low integrity if you are trying to pretend you aren't doing it.
2007-03-24 14:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is ridiculous. He can't care about you that much if he is already interested in other girls. Don't kid yourself, it's not love either.
2007-03-24 14:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by DazeyChain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋