A moral dilema regarding my HPV and my sex drive?

Question

So I have HPV, the kind with no warts. Does this mean I can never have sex again? Here's my real question...

I feel like if I tell the guy that I have HPV, tell him his risks if he has sex with me including passing along to the next girl and he still has sex with me, is it still partially my fault if he ends up getting HPV or passes it along?
Have I done my part by simply making him aware of the risks he's taking by having sex with me? Or is it my moral obligation to never have sex again?!?

PLEASE if you don't know alot about HPV or are only here to spout crap about me being a slut, MOVE ALONG.

And a few facts are that 1, I'm not a slut, and 2, HPV can be spread from skin to skin contact even WITH a condom...


I'M NOT HERE TO BE PREACHED AT

Answer 1

Breathe. Yes you can have sex again. Just make sure the guy knows what HPV is and what is it about. Some guys will be very accepting (like my BF) and some won't. You ARE doing your part in telling him. It is his choice from there. Don't try to take the world on your shoulders. Don't listen to small minded people who think they are better than everyone. Just be careful and always let your partner have a choice. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well, some people feel the need to educate others and some people don't. It's an entirely personal choice.

If you tell a person and they decide have a sexual relationship with you, knowing the facts, then no, it is not your fault if you pass it along. After all they have made the decision to go through with risking it.

Yes, you've done your part. No, I don't believe that there is a moral obligation on you to never have sex again.
There are plenty of people out there who have HPV having plenty of sex. That's why HPV genitally is so common.

You're not going to cure the world of it alone by not having sex. I think it would be better just to accept that it is a normal part of life.

It has been my experience that after educating people about HPV, they don't really listen until they find out that they have HPV. You cannot be held responsible if they pass HPV along to someone else. You can only be responsible for you. Everyone else makes their own choices.

STD information is out there. It's just that most people don't seek it out until they find out they have one.
Is that your fault or theirs?
I certainly wouldn't like to think that I was responsible for everyones sex education. That onus falls on them.

If they choose not to find out about the realities, then that's their problem. Not yours.

Answer 3

I got diagnosed with HPV and i already had sex with my now husband because the doctor didn;t diagnose me properly, just be careful because you can pass it even if you are wearing a condom, the doctor told me that i could of picked it up off a public toilet seat. Alot of people do have it and you can still have sex as along as the partner knows and is comfortable with the risks. Just make sure you have pap smear tests every six months. The HPV strand that dosen;t have the warts is quite risky, not meaning to scare you but it is better to be safe than sorry.

Answer 4

Good grief. ANY partner you have needs to wear a condom. It's just that simple.

If he gets HPV from you, it's not partially your fault.....it is completely your fault if you don't take the right precautions. You had unprotected sex and that's how you got it in the first place. Now you have to be responsible and NOT pass it along to others. If you want to have sex, then you have to grow up.

Answer 5

First of all sex is good. Just make sure your partner is informed and his wiling to accept you . Love is very important ...dont stop yourself from having sex just because you ahve HPV. I do have HPV but i dont think its the end of the world. After all my fiance accepted me for what my condition is. I just want you to know that if you have sex with someone make sure you tell them.. they deserve to know.

It is your moral obligation to inform the person and you want to be fair. You should also tell him everything. Both of you need to accept the fact and the consequences.
goodluck

Answer 6

80% of women have some form of HPV.... Are the people making nasty comments aware that they may be a carrier and not even know?

You should not judge


Definetely tell your partner you have HPV but make sure they are aware that it is not the warts kind. Men tend to have no ill effects unless it is the warts kind the only thing they have to worry about is passing it on to another women . It is women who suffer... Dysplasia...Cancer...

Answer 7

Firstly, in many places in the world, not informing a partner that you have an STD/disease that is transmittable can be an offence resulting in you being charged. HPV can be treated, so no, you don't have to lead a life of celibacy. You do need to inform any of your partners (and any of your previous partners who may have contracted it from you) that you have HPV and take the necessary precautions. If the guy agrees to have sex with you and you have alerted him to your condition then he is giving you his consent and therefore if he is infected, while it is still your fault, he was aware of the risks. I recommend seeing your doctor for treatment and information on the safest ways to have sex.

Answer 8

hpv can not be treated i had read someone said it can be. well, its not your fault becuase if you inform them and they still have sex with you, they know the risk and they continue to go on with what they want to do. you arent responsible, nor is it your fault.. and NO! you dont have to take sex out of your life! just make sure they know whats going on. and from there out, its up to that person.

Answer 9

You shouldn't be having sex not being married - that's why you have HPV (they should call it "TMP" - too many partners).

I think that you've missed understanding this.