i am the girl that wrote "why wont my boyfriend marry me?" last week. well now we are getting married!!!! we had a very lengthy discussion and i think i made him realise how important it is to me and he wants to make me happy. i am so excited to be his wife and for us to finally be a proper family! however, he wants to get married in vegas this year and then do it all properly with big wedding on beach etc.. in a couple of years when we move to australia. the beach wedding in oz is my dream wedding, we have a lot of friends there as well and i know it would be fantastic. the question is should we get married in vegas this year and then do the big weddding or just wait and do the dream wedding just once? i am just a little scared that it wont feel as special if we are already married. he doesnt mind either way, he is leaving the decision up to me. what do you think?
2007-03-17 23:31:58 · 17 answers · asked by pom pom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Congratulations!
I, personally, believe that your dream wedding should be your first wedding. It may be more economical to wait for the dream wedding, and have the quickie Vegas wedding in the meantime, but how are you going to feel a few years from now, knowing that when you walk down that aisle its just for show, that you're already married. That's a vow renewal, not a wedding.
Secondly, I have done extensive research, and you can have an amazing wedding for much less than you think. To be quite honest, you could have your dream wedding for not much more than the cost of the quickie Vegas wedding.
The main cost of weddings goes towards food. I am self-catering my wedding, and, although this seems like a daunting task to many, the key is delegating. Set up a team. Go to a local culinary school, and post flyers for student waiters and cooks. They're more experienced than you think, but they're much cheaper than you'd expect, too. College students are desperate for money!
With this, you can create your own menu. I'm not sure how many people you would want to have at your wedding, but, if you decide to self-cater, then I would not suggest any more than 125. Overall, you can buy in bulk (with very high quality), and spend 5-15 dollars per person instead of 50 dollars and upwards.
Additionally, if you're palnning on having your wedding on the beach, that saves a lot of money right there! There are no steep costs for the ceremony and the reception site, as this is typically much cheaper. You can rent a large tent from a local party store very cheaply, and set it up as your reception site.
If you want your dream, then make it happen. Don't settle for anything less.
2007-03-18 06:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by lilmissmiss 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Obviously, it's completely up to YOU if he's happy either way.
A friend of mine had to get married in a small ceremony, as she's Aussie and her husband is American and to get all the paperwork done so they can both live in America, they had to be legally married quite a while before they go to America to live. They didn't tell too many people about it, and then had a 'proper wedding' (on the beach!) several months later. Both said that they didn't 'feel married' until the bigger wedding, but it could have something to do with the fact that they were living in 2 different countries whilst 'married' the first time!
2007-03-18 06:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I come from Australia so I thought I could put my two bobs worth in. I think having the two events is a great idea! Your Wedding is the best time of your life with so much attention on you - especially the bride. You'll feel like a princess! The thing is - they are over so quickly. If you have the two separate events - at least when you get married - you've still got the big Wedding to look forward to!
2007-03-18 06:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you willing to wait 2 more years to be married? if so then wait but if you aren't willing to wait that long go to vegas then throw the big party later. I've never been married but I think it will be quite the same if you are already married for 2 years before you do a big public ceremony.
i say if the big public ceremony is really important to you then I would wait, if you are both committed and in love then it should still be so in 2 years. if the big party is not that important to the 2 of you then get married as soon as you want or are able to
2007-03-18 06:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by onlinedreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait !!! getting married is a big deal. It is ok to be engaged for a couple of years. Vegas is the easy way to get 'hitched." You seem like you want the dream wedding. Once you do it, the second time won't be as meaningful. Infact, you have less of a chance of it actually happening a second time. If you have to ask, then you should already know the answer.......WAIT !!!
2007-03-18 06:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by RJsGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its your wedding just do what you feel you want if you really wanna be married go to vegas and have the party later and if you love him it will stiff feel the same when you marry him again on the beach.Maybe it will be even better the second time i think its great.
2007-03-18 06:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd wait for the dream wedding. If you feel confident and secure in the relationship, there's no reason not to wait.
However, if you're concerned to get married ASAP, the Vegas wedding could be great fun. It really depends what feels right to you.
Why has he suggested the Vegas wedding? If it's because that's HIS dream wedding, maybe you should go for it! If he's letting you have your dream, it seems fair to let him have his, too!
2007-03-18 06:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by Saint Bee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's what I say: first of all, your wedding will be one of the biggest milestones in your life. This is the ceremony of which you and your soul mate have not only claimed your unending bond of love together, but it bonds you legally as well. However, you must also realize that your wedding lasts only one day; it's the relationship that lasts longer. Weigh out your values and reality, and you will find the answer in your heart.
2007-03-18 18:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by Help_hiho 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As an Aussie I would welcome you here for your beach wedding and cannot see why you are worried that if you are already married it wont be special let me assure you both that any beach wedding in our wonderful country is special and everyone here will make sure yours is extra special~~
2007-03-18 06:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have your big wedding, forget vegas. save your money and have the best wedding ever in oz and make the best day of your life extra special.
2007-03-18 06:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋