Family Conspirancy?

Question

My friends needs some advice and i can't write what he wants to say so i am going to let him write it.

my father came back into my life after 15 years, he left cause people said that my mother was cheating on him, and she told him i wasn't his. and i heard a family member talking about the rumor was a joke and that person is like when he sees a friend mad has nothing to say he tries to make up a joke or comment, and he had to of said it no doubt that person did, and than my father calls me, and they pick up and every time they answer i come into the subject, and they say everything bad about me, and the reason i would do something bad or wrong is because i dont talk, very much, and they hate me cause i dont talk, and even when i do talk its worse than i would talk. and so i snap cause they purposely do things that make me snap, and do those bad things or wrong things. and so when everything is almost good they say and do things like move out, and for no reason, and yell about it

none stop, and when i first say my father he was trusting and loving, and caring, and all a father could be, saying i'll be there for whatever you need. and so now after my whole family has said every little bad thing i've done out of anger that was brought down on me on purpose, now he doesn't say h-b-day, or anything he lives half of this country away and he wants me to go there an stay there, leaving my whole life behind . and i almost died a year ago in a brutal, horrific car accident, and no one in my family asked as soon as they saw me if i was ok, and neither did my father and now everytime i talk with my father its him looking at houses to buy. and hows things going here. and i cant keep saying everything there doing to me. so i stopped saying that, and started saying every things fine. and i don't know my father, but i do know my family that i live with and that are aoround me and i know there not going to let me start a new life with my father without them poisoning his mind

with everything they do to me, so i have to defend my self with either words or actions no matter who. so what do i do, and dont say be nice to the family thats here and around me i tried that, they get worse and why is my father not beleiving what im telling him before i stopped saying everything there doing....oh and my family are blood relations? and should i leave this place for my father thats been gone for 15 years? i need the PROS and CONS and anything that might help.. and anyone that jokes about this there getting a "report violation" asap, and if you honeslty even suggest something than i wont but this is a turning point in my life and i need some advice please and thank you ....

Answer 1

First of all, TALK is cheap. Pay no attention to the people who dis-respect you. Secondly, you must GIVE respect to get it back. Snapping out because someone says something is childish. No wonder they talk about you. (I don't mean this in a bad way, but you are giving them ammunition to use against you) Why don't you go with your dad for a trial period, let's say 6 months, and see how it goes. You should get to know him. You may find you like it better there and it will be kind of like a vacation. Be SURE eferyone knows this is just a trial period if you are under the age of 18. You don't want to get stuck somewhere if you DON'T like it. Besides, you say they are doing things on purpose here to make you angry....WHY would you want to stay ??? I would also suggest anger management classes. You should vent more instead of keeping it all bottled up. You will explode someday and hurt someone.

Answer 2

It sounds like the home life you have couldn't be much worse. Your father was evidently given the shaft by these people also and probably they what they say has a very low credibility factor to him.

It seems like he wants you to come and live with him and the two of you seem to have hit it off well. I think you should give it a try. What you would be losing doesn't seem to be much and what you could be gaining is a whole new outlook on life.

Answer 3

I really don't know what to say, its a very long story. Please indicate how old are you. If you are old enough to get out of the house just doing so, have your own life, leave everything bad behind, if they are your family let them look for you, if you want them, then just stay there, don't have to change anything. Its all in your hand. Don't choose either of them, nor yr father or yr family. Just be on your own, buildup your own life, be yourself.

Answer 4

I think you should just get up outta there...I know that nobody wants to be alone and everybody wants to be loved, but sometimes you are better off alone, especially in your case, the way you are being treated! They show you no respect, whatsoever!
You should get in contact with someone you can talk to and you definitely need to report this situation, build your life up. Hope everythings turns out alright for you. Good luck! x