moms that dont want to let go of their children even after their adults, do u not want them to do their own thing, find out who they really are & be happy?
im really not trying to offend any moms here. just my mom seems really possessive of me & i would really like to understand where she's coming from
2007-03-17 23:18:56 · 8 answers · asked by tupac4evaa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I am a mom of two daughters who are adults, as long as I am breathing air on this earth I will worry about them and sometimes give my advice. It can be taken or discarded but its something that is built in to a mother and its hard to change. I try to keep my advice to where its not preaching. (thank God my daughters arent here to contradict me here lol) but you know I lost my mother and I miss her advice right now so much. I would give anything to hear her tell me this or that. Dont get so hung up on her advice. Tell her you love her very much, tell her you appreciate her advice, thats all she wants to hear really. Then take what you want and do your own thing.
2007-03-17 23:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol, It is called a mother's instict some say. To be protective, to be nosey, to be and know everything that is going on. The only way you are going to understand is to become a mother. (when you are ready!!!!) I love my girls. ages 7 months and 2 years old. I want to be a friend more than just a mom. But i dont know if that will happen. Years go by fast and you learn as you go. So, the only thing i can tell you is that she means her best, and it may be annoying, but she didnt give you life just to hurry up and get rid of you. And you wanting to be on your own makes her sad inside. And if you are 18>up, and you just want to go and be on your own then that is YOUR choice, not hers, just tell her you love her and you'll be ok, and if something happens you'll call and you want her to be there for you. Go live your life, but go back to visit, ok.
If you are under 18, them home is where you need to stay, life is hard. You should charish the roof over your head, and clothes on your back, food in your tummy. Life wont hand things like that to you for free hun. I have been there! Follow your moms rules as long as they are not hurting you. Small rules like be back before 10:00pm, is not a hard rule. You think it is cause your young and your friends are still out.
Right now life seems fun for you, in the real world, it is not!
Like the guy above me said, it would be nice to know your age, That way I can go back and see what the problem is. I am only 25, I do remember my teenage years VERY well!
I hope you find this useful.
2007-03-18 00:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by tekken185 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some moms are like this. I personally had a hard time when my first son left home, and again when my second son left home to begin his life in college. However, I do have the understanding that this is what I have spent my entire life raising them for, to leave and go out into the world and become productive citizens. I have to have the knowledge and understanding that they will make some bad choices, this is how we learn, However, have enough confidence within myself to realize I did the best I could do in preparing them. It is scary, and it is difficult. However, not impossible. However, I still have two sons at home. It will most probably become more difficult as they grow and leave. Just talk to you mom, and explain to her, that she should feel confident enough within her self. To realize she is the one that raised you and gave you the love and nurturing you needed to get to where you are today. Tell her to be proud of you and herself. And surely, leaving home and gaining some independence will not mean you will not need her advice ever again. Ensure her that you will maintain contact and will not fall off of the face of the earth. It is difficult letting go, however, it is a necessary part of life. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-18 01:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I gather you must be in your twenties,because you use the phrase adult. Now assuming you are 18 years or older, what hand do you write with? Now I know what you must be thinking, what is this person talking about, and where is she coming from?
Well if you are 18 or above and have been writing with either your left or right hand now all of a sudden try writing with the opposite hand. Just keep doing it for one week. Every time you want to write something do it with the opposite hand.
You will find it quite difficult to do because for what ever number of years you have been writing with the left or right hand and now out of what seems like the clear blue sky you have to change what you have been doing for years.
Are you getting my point?
Mom loves you and she has to now change something she has been doing for years and it is very difficult for her to do.
Sit her down and explain to her what you feel. Tell her mom I am an adult now, and I really appreciate all you have done for me, but it is time for me to try to do things on my own. You have raised me to be a good person, and to take responcibility , you have taught me everything you can, and I will from time to time need your advise. But be ever so mindful it will be difficult for her. Everytime something happens and she might forget and you will feel that frustration, just pick up that pencil and remember what she is going through.
Good luck
2007-03-18 00:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by majean52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mums always know where you are wrong and where you are right ..!!!
mums know whats best for you ..listen to their advice
while their still alive ...this is the gold time you know ...
no1 will think better of you compared to your mums level..
she's been through a whole lot more in many different ways..
to learn what is best for her children ..cause she's always
thinkin of tommorow ....make your mums happy always..
you can never understand where she's cumin from ...
but to learn where she's cumin from ...
and avoid all the bad parts !!
i aint no mum.. but trust me ...
i really see what my mum wants me to be !!
and i will show it and stand tall while she's alive !!
that i will make it the right way and not the wrong !!!
how many years she's still here...
i jus' wanna live luv n have FUN !!!
you get me !!! be REAL !!!
2007-03-19 09:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by THUG LIFE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're right about this. I meet one of my close friend, she wont let her son 28years old to move out just coz she thinks he cant be independent yet. Most mothers are like that. I think I'm one of them too. I think maybe coz of the love too much, we don't want to stop caring and in charge of our own children. If i knew my son can handle himself, like cleaning his own room, iron his own shirts to work, eat proper lunch and dinner. I don't mind, i will let him go, Its really doesn't matter to me.
2007-03-17 23:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husbands mother is still trying to overly mother him, we had to tell her she could not make all the decisions anymore, it works for a while then we have to say something again, I do think it comes from a place of love annoying as it may be
2007-03-17 23:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you're not 5 and you already did a gang bang....
2007-03-17 23:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋