im a pretty good looking guy, i dont have any problems attracting girls, it just seems the girls i'm attracted to are bad news...im pretty good with talking to, and getting to know girls i'm interested in, but sometimes i get caught in the "friend zone" if there is such a thing...what can i do to persue a girl i am interested in and avoid being the nice "side" or "friend" guy? i've been passed up for guys that dont have as good personality or looks as me, so im kind of at a loss right now...is it me or am i just going for the wrong types of girls?
2007-03-17 23:14:07 · 4 answers · asked by aussieguyincanada 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This happens to me all the time too. I think that if you don't want to become friends with a girl because you're interested in her, you need to make that obvious from early on. Go in for a little pash soon after meeting her or just communicate it to her (without being too sleazy about it).
Once you're already friends with a girl, it's much harder to move across into the dating department, because since you have a pre-established relationship, it's all very serious. I would start by subtly letting her know that you're into her and seeing what the response is. A lot of guys I'm friends with have said something like; 'I always thought that we would end up together someday' and my response to that gives them a pretty clear indication of whether or not they have a shot at all. It's really common for male friends to ask; 'How come we've never gotten together?', and you can ask it in a light-hearted, casual way that doesn't seem sleazy. If the girl is responsive then make a move and take it from there.
2007-03-17 23:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty much the same way, except with guys. But its funny, I find that the times when I care least about attracting guys, thats the time when I get the most attention from them. : ) I'm not sure why, but maybe its a confindence thing that I send out at those times. Maybe they can sense that you're on the look-out for a girlfriend and maybe they feel pressured, I don't know. I felt that way when I was looking for a boyfriend. But don't worry, I'm sure the right sort of person will come along for you if you're patient and comfortable with who you are. : )
2007-03-18 06:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by turan21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're going for the wrong kind of girl, or.. there's just a lot of bad girls out there, so you're coming into contact with them a lot
you have to learn how to recognize the good girls.. a few girls do like the good guys
2007-03-18 06:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by some_one1234 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem from reading you question that you view yourself as being the greatest thing on the planet earth which is a big turn off for women. If you think too much of yourself then your attention is not on them and they don't like that and it is not hard for them to pick up on that.
2007-03-18 06:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋