Ever since I got dumped I realised that he was not worth it, he does not deserve me in the first place. I have made no contact with him, only he made contact which some I ignored, I booked a trip to go to europe for 4 weeks, I am planning to move in with my best girlfriend and I have been started to go out and mingle with new people. I feel like I'm doing the right thing, but I can't stop thinking about my ex, he broke my heart, I tried to get some answers, he says that hes unhappy and doesn't love me anymore 2 months after he dumped me (which meant he dumped me unexpectantly and ran away with no reason) but he doesn't know why. I gave up finding the truth because I wanted to be happy again and live my life, but he's constantly in my mind and I can't get rid of it. I still love him, but I haven't done any extreme measures in getting him back like calling him or stalking him, because I know I am too good to be like that. What should I do?
2007-03-17 22:21:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOL. This happened to me over a year ago. My ex and I broke up out of the blue. Everything was going great, we were planning on moving in together(his idea, I was terrified by the whole thing), he wanted the full package. I loved him and he really broke my heart. We had agreed to be just stay friends like we were before we got together but then all of a sudden he no longer returned my calls or text me or anything. About 2 months later when he finally called I told him that I had really missed him and out of nowhere once again he tells me that he had something to tell me (that I had been a horrible gf and that I never understood him!). I was completely shocked by it and to be honest I wanted to tell him off but instead I told him that if that's how he felt that I was sorry for having him waste his time. Well long story short.... I moved away because almost 5 months after the break up I was still hurting horribly. I moved 6 hours away and soon after that he started calling me agian. Till this day he doesn't know exactly why I moved. He thinks that I moved to go to school, but in all reality I it was cuz of him. A year and a half later I don't regret moving because I've learned so much about myself. He still calls me every few weeks/months and I once reminded him of his little comment about me being a bad gf to him and he feels horrible, his explanation for it was that he knew that I still loved him and he wanted me to hate him because in his sick twisted mind it made sense that if I hated him I'd no longer be hurting. Anyways I've dated other guys over the last year and a half and it has been great for me. The only thing that can really heal your broken heart will be the distance and the time you put between you two. For me it was great medicine to put that distance between us, it really made him realize what he had lost. Nowadays we don't really see each other and we rarely talk but I still think about him and to some degree I'll always love him yet I'm no longer in love with him. I am definitely enjoying meeting new men and learning about myself. But like I said you'll always remember him, that's all he is to me now. Memories.
2007-03-17 22:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by calichicka852003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to greive over the loss of a relationship. No matter how bad the guy seems, we gals will still tend to miss him and still love him with our hearts.
Don't rush yourself to forget about him. Do your stuff as per normal, keep yourself busy. When you have the urge to call/text him, call your gal friends instead. I did that when I had the urge to contact my ex. It won't be easy. All I can say is that time will heal all wounds and make you forget about him.
2007-03-18 05:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by Grace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I pack my trunk, embrace my friends, embark on the sea, and at last wake up in Naples, and there beside me is the Stern Fact, the Sad Self, unrelenting, identical, that I fled from." ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Moving on isn't easy... Just keep trying to go down that path--you know going back wouldn't be good for you.
Simply removing yourself from somewhere does not help, but it's a start, since you will be able to start sorting out your feelings without too much interference...
You will keep dwelling on him for a while, of course, but trust me... It will take time, and "time heals all things."
2007-03-18 05:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get your heart broken there is only one cure find what you miss and seek it out , have a few affairs get wild a few times then ask your self again what is it i seek is it a life or is it a new beginning
raven
2007-03-18 05:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by bradlie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋