Do you believe in Pre-Marital Sex? Why?

Question

Do you believe in pre-matiral sex? Why? If yes, What do you think God thinks about your decision?

Answer 1

God says "Thou shalt not commit adultery"
As a born again Christian, no, I don't believe in pre-marital sex, although I am guilty of that sin, but since I have been saved, that sin is now forgiven and forgotten and I must not commit that sin again. I am married so I will not have that problem.

Answer 2

Rams,

Do I believe that the practice exists? Certainly.

Do/Have I participated in said activities? Yes I have.

In asking what I think "God thinks about my decision," I think you're really asking if I feel guilty about having had sex before I got married. The answer is a resounding NO. I can tell you that I have the utmost respect for my body and health, and have never had a venereal disease. I always took care of myself and took appropriate steps to protect myself. That said, I do believe that God would be (and IS) awful disappointed in a lot of folks that DO get venereal diseases and 'accidental' pregnancies especially if they knew better and decided NOT to use protection anyways. I know that if I were God, I would be p issed at humans who choose not to use this magnificent brain he blessed us with...NOTHING is out of reach for those who use their brain.

Now, if you're going into the Bible (written by man, with male chauvinism featured throughout) and the whole Christian dogma thing, forget it. God is not so petty that he gives a damn about a quarter of the made-up crap that's in the Bible.

Answer 3

It makes sense to have sex before committing to a marriage, as sex and money problems are the two biggest causes of marital problems and divorce.

I could be wrong, but "espoused" in the Bible was before marriage and people lived together under that arrangement. Where does it specifically say in the Bible that you must go through a marriage ceremony before sex? Perhaps it does, but I'm not aware of that.

And finally.....it still makes sense to try sex out before you get married and have kids with a person you aren't physically compatible .

Do you worry about everything you consider a sin to the point of never doing it, like Gluttony?? Like judging others??

Answer 4

Ok, on the obvious level I believe in premarital sex because people do have premarital sex. It exists. I've had sex and never been married. Yeah, I belive in it.

Do I believe it is a sin?

No, but I'm agnostic. I believe the Bible is a book with a lot of good things in it, too.

I think sex is an incredibly healthy thing in or out of wedlock. It feels good (always a plus!!) and, so long as one can learn to let go of his or her insecurities, it can be an amazing experience on far more than physical levels even without love.

I do think it's a sticky subject, though. We live in this age where both men and women have their sexual roles defined so much by society that it can be difficult to separate that which we think we should believe from that which we feel.

In the end I think we should each do what feels best for us intellectually and emotionally. Don't have sex if you don't want to no matter how offended, put off, or hurt another is. They aren't considering your feelings. Don't force another to have sex by any means (violence, intimidation, whining too much). You know you aren't considering their needs and there actually is a part of you that doesn't like that.

I don't believe it is possible to know if there is a god or not. I certainly don't believe it possible to know what he/she/it would think about premarital sex no matter which words are printed in which books.

I would hope that if there is some consciousness that is wiser than we are, created us, loves us, and will decide our eternities it would not punish us for not being able to be as wise as it, realize that in creating us it created our failings as well, loves us no matter what we do or how far we stray, and decides our fates fairly, with all these considerations, rather than judging us evil because we didn't cater to it's ego and praise it enough, acted only as we were created to, and condemn us for simply being as we were created and reacting to the universe as he created it and the evils that he created.

Anything that is omniscient, omnipotent cannot claim to create anything without knowing exactly how that thing will turn out in the end.

If God exists and he does condemn any of us to hell I can't see how he didn't create us specifically to endure that fate without being all-knowing and while having a heck of an ego complex and some major insecurity issues. I'd just think he'd have more faith in his own ability to create if he were to have both greater wisdom and expect our faith in him.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with consensual sex between adults in a committed relationship. Religion gets involved because it's been trying for hundreds of years to control it, with nearly no success. Sexual desire is the second-strongest drive in human nature (self-preservation is first). People are going to have sex, regardless of how much Jesus you throw at them. Religion needs to grow up.
Besides, isn't sex a gift from your gods? Where do you get off having contempt for a gift? Isn't rejection of a heavenly gift blasphemy?

Answer 6

Sex.. sorry I meant Yex... there I go again "YES"

There is absolutely nothing wrong with pre-marital sex. Some guy just came up with the idea to make the world a terrible place...

Sex and more pre-marital sex!!

Answer 7

I believe that it is a sin, yes I have done it A LOT. I don't do it now because I asked God to forgive me for it so what is the point in doing it again? Also I have a 14 year old daughter and I need to make a good impression on her. I need to be the example. That is my job. Yes it sucks, but in the long run it will be worth it.

Answer 8

If that's your way of getting through the world go for it. Personally, I like to work for what I have and be independent. I think God doesn't need to be involved in every decision of your life.

Answer 9

I practice pre-marital sexual union because I am not of mind to feel that 'god' gives a rat's booty about it. It is natural, biologically sane, and not everyone believes that the Christian paradigm is right.

Answer 10

Look one of the differences between Humans and Animals is that Animals do not one partner in their whole life, they mate with every male in their surrounding.

But we Humans are not like that we have sex with only one partner, we commit to that partner, we do not want give importance to SEX but to relationship. You have to have sex only with your partner throughout you life to call yourself a Human.

Again a Human will have only one Sexual relationship with only person. So having pre marital Sex and having Sex with your hubby after marriage is like Bitches

Answer 11

I believe that question should be left up to the individual. I do not have the right to force my beliefs on anyone else, and I certainly do not want your beliefs forced on me.