I'm waiting for a soldier who is in Iraq and I would like to know anybody else who is doing the same thing or has done it and what it has been like and if it was worth it to them. Thank You!
2007-03-17 21:44:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Military relationships can be some of the strongest relationships. You have to deal with so much, including worries, missing your soldier, doing things on your own, and making sure that you are there for your soldier in every way you can be. But if you work hard at it, and your soldier works hard at it, you can become stronger and closer. Work hard and hold on to him tight!!
2007-03-18 02:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been to Iraq twice, once for 15 months and once for 10. He leaves later this year for another 12-18 months there. When he leaves this time he won't just be leaving me behind, but we'll also have an infant daughter.
It is very hard, but if you truly love your soldier is it so worth it. I don't regret any of the nights I've spent alone waiting on my husband. Every time he comes home, things just pick back up where we left off, and it feels like he was never gone. We have never had many problems with readjustment, like some people do. I think that if you work hard to really communicate and work on your relationship while he is gone, it is less stressful when he suddenly drops back into your life after a year.
The best thing you can do while he is gone is take care of yourself. Do something for YOU - get a job you love, go to school, get a hobby, anything that will keep you busy and also help you grow and be happy as an individual. It is so easy to get wrapped up in doing everything for your soldier, and end up spending all your time sitting by the phone or computer waiting to hear from him. (Not that there is anythign wrong with sending him lots of letters and packages and talking to him every chance you get - just make sure that in between those things you aren't moping around the house depressed.) If you take care of yourself, it won't seem so long, and you will feel a lot better while you are waiting on him.
Good luck with your deployment, I hope everything goes well for both of you!
2007-03-18 10:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the other side of the coin I have to say that the infidelity rolls from the female side more than the male...it's just a question of numbers. Females are outnumbered 3 to 1. I know a ton of good married men (married to military women) that have been burned, I also know a ton of "mattress backs" that volunteer to deploy just so they can whore around. I bet your man is good...the females are not though...beware and good luck.
2007-03-18 05:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by je6 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my wife of 27 years always waited for me...a military wife is not the actual one in combat...but goes through alto on her own...the lonliness..ect...it's just as hard to be a military spouse as being the soldier..good luck and hang in there
2007-03-18 04:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
see m a gal totally from military background,,,i have seen everything u r talkin abt...n yes lemme tell u it does worth to them..so keep ur hopes high n good luck.....god bless u..
2007-03-18 05:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋