Help! I have no clue why I do the things I do...?

Question

I constantly annoy those closest to me and myself by doing the following things:
1. Asking the same question a 100 times
2. Feel the need to hear a response way more than once
3. Half to keep making sure everything is ok in my relationship
4. Worry over boy friends/friends poor decisions
5. Constantly make to do lists and must know what's going on
6. Avoid social occasions like parties etc.

These are the main things... I really wish I could stop doing these things because it causes not only a lot of stress but also interfering with my social life! I have extreme anxiety until I do these things and I feel a lot of stress just thinking of social situations.
Thank you for those that read this...
Any suggestions? Please help!

Thank you everyone! Yea I have had people say I might have OCD but I always dismissed it because I thought you had to have repeated actions as well like washing hands a lot. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do to help minimize it on my own until I see a Dr.?

Answer 1

It does sound like you have some compulsive tendencies. It seems like you have a lot of anxiety in general and social anxiety.

I know what this is like from my own experiences. Meds will help a lot, they really are little miracle pills.

But, you need things to try before you see the Dr. now and you will need things to help you in extreme situations, when the medication can not quite cure it all - and there will be those times.

My first recommendation is to get a therapist and see them on a regular basis. Mine has taught me so much over the past years and still does now.

Back to what you can do on your own.

Deep, controled breathing. Breath in on a count of five, hold for a count of three and release to a count of five. Just focusing on your breathing will bring down your anxiety.

Talk to a close friend or relative about it and ask for their help. Call them when you start feeling out of control and let them help guide you back to calm. Most insurance companies have 24 hour lines where you can talk to someone as well.

Guided meditation is great, because they tell what to focus on and how to breath and relax - guided imagry is wonderful as an escape from a tumbling mind.

Using lists is often a good thing. You can write down everything that needs done and then clear it from your mind to aid you to rest and sleep and enjoy other things.

A therapist will be able to help you greatly with your feelings of social inadeqacy.

Try writing down the answers people give you, so you will remember and not ask again. Train your mind to accept the answer as true and genuine. Writing it down will help you feel that.

Listen to your mind when you are constantly asking questions and needing to be reassured. Hear the question in your mind first. Ask yourself if you have already answered the question. If you have an answer, then tell yourself that you have the answer and don't need to ask again. Stop and think at least 10 seconds before you ask. It will be hard at first,, but you can train yourself sucessfully with practice.

Use distraction when your anxiety is high - do, watch, or listen to whatever you enjoy and throw yourself into it. Soon, the anxiety will fade.

Remember that anxiety is always a temporary state and you will get through it every singe time.

Socially, make smart decisions on what to do out and do. For instance, If you are invited to a party and do not want to go, then tell yourself that you are just to go in, say hello, happy birthday or whatever it is. Greet your host and thank them for the invite and tell them you have another obligation and must head back in a few minutes. That way, you know it will be quick and easy and you'll get socilazation points. Then, you can work up your nerve to a longer level of socialization, like lunch with one friend on comfortable, familiar terf. Set and end time. You get the idea.

Don't worry about large crowds or loud parties yet.

Most of all, take a step back, breath and pay attention to your mood and what your are doing. If it is negative, start positive thoughts if you can or distract if you can't. When you slow down the pace, breathe and take control of the situation, you will start to feel better.

Be Well

Answer 2

Sounds like you have a combination of OCD and social anxiety. I suggest you see psychologist or psychiatrist for help. I use to have those problems too but It went away after being prescribed Prozac by my doctor.

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To minimize it on your own until you see a therepist try buying a cognitive therepy workbook at Barnes & Noble. Cognitive therepy works by rationalizing against your own compulsive thoughts. They even have therepists that specialize in cognitive therepy. But see your psychietrist first and don't listen to the guy who says not to take antidepressents. Just take whatever the doctor recommends.

Answer 3

maybe you have obsessive compulsive disorder it isn't uncommon, try to talk this over with a counselor, it may take some time to try different methods of thinking, I assume you get anxiety if you don't get things sorted out and you need to feel reassured and all that. I can understand that. counselling can help and you may need a xanax or valium prescription so you don't get too panicky. email if need to talk to somone hope you get better. Would just like to add be careful of taking antidepressant drugs like prozac they can mess with your head even worse. The drugs i suggested are for calming they dont mess your mind they are called Benzodiazipines . The prozac, paxil, zoloft, effexor, lexapro are anti depressants and i would stay clear of them in my opinion.

Answer 4

See http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/modules.php (modules.php) Practice for 20 mins daily the method at http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com Meditation room; try it out; mantra meditation; repeat the word: "easy" Learn and practice the breathing method at http://deeplyrelax.com and if you use it and repeat in your mind your mantra: "easy", it will help you through times of stress and anxiety. Benzodiazapenes can be helpful, but never give them up "cold turkey": I would be guided by my therapist.

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Answer 6

To me that screams of OCD, I would print your question out on paper and bring it to your doctor!