im feeling so hurt and so sad and upset .. that after all 9 months with the guy i believed and loved with all my heart..
everything all the dreams of future is not there now..
he is dating around to see if it helps him to get over me he said he wants to go back to the way he was before i met him.
he says he doesnt feel anything for them and its not helping but he somehow knows he will get over me even though that he says he isnt sure what he wants says that he has feelings for me but dont love me, says he misses me alot but dont want to be with me.. he says he will hurt alot and that it hurts now knowing that i'll be with someone else but he'll get over it!
im so stupid i even spoke to him on the phone said its me now or never that i dont want to lose what we had that noone will love him like me. He says he isnt 100% sure he wants to be with me and he isnt 100% sure he doesnt.. then i called him again and he said i dont want you, i dont love you........ >>read additional details>>
2007-03-17 21:27:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...i dont need your help, even though he was crying in the last phone call and in the txts before he said he dont wanna loose me forever and that he will always regret it and that i was his everything.
what am i supposed to do.. its been 3 weeks and i still cry each night, i said to him i want to be happy with him, i told him to not push love away that he doesnt have to go through pain he can have me but i cant be friends with him anymore it breaks my heart and i cant see this over guy coz its unfair on him..coz if u decide u want me i will have to drop him for you.. then he said he would do that for me.. drop all girls but yet... WHY the HELL was he so stubborn and saying at the end i DONT WANT YOU.. i said i hope one day you will realise youre making a mistake! ...
NOW please someone tell me what is he going through?? and WHY??
do guys sometimes need to be single for a while to see if anyone else will feel the same.
will he come back to me i want him so bad but not like this!
2007-03-17 21:27:49 · update #1
wow chill out for a sec. When you first met him did you feel completely like this. I'm not giveing you advise but you feel this way because you built up and attached to him. You werent like this when you frist met. You can have it, even if you have to start over and its not with him
2007-03-17 21:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by social_outlaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do take that comment of i dont want you, i dont love you, too seriously, he was prob just trying to convince himself of the fact, rather than actually telling u something - talk with him - not on the phone but face to face, that way he cant just hang up on u or u him and u 2 are forced to talk openly. How old r u just crious cos u seem completely love stricken, big time. Guys can get this way when ther feelings and stuff are out in the open, its like a no mans land for us so just keep the situation calm and dont burn bridges between the two of you - whatever decision is made, make it work cos u dont want to lose a great friend just because he cares for you and doesnt love love you. K ;)
2007-03-17 21:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Che 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to this question very much. I am sorry you are going through this. I am a guy, and I can tell you that this man just needs time. He is obviously having commitment issues, and has been deeling with them for some time. He hasn't been happy the last few months I can assure you. He probably does love you , and he probably does miss you. The problem is that in his mind you represent this chain...that is holding him back...tying him down , and he wants nothing more than to escape. there is nothing you can do, but let yourself move on. The pain will subside over time.
2007-03-17 21:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by EternalBlueMemory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're getting THIS melodramatic over a 9 MONTH relationship??!! Try going through a divorce after being married for 20 years and THEN talk about a breakup.
2007-03-17 21:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what he's going thru. Im not him. for some reason he doesnt want you. doesnt love you.
having feelings for you and misses you isnt love, want, future.
that would have me crying too. i guess its better if he says something than nothing and hanging around hoping for someone who doesnt talk to you at all. give the man some space and wait or move on. peace
2007-03-17 21:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he still wants to be wanted. He doesnt really care about you, he just wants you hanging onto his leash, as you hope he pulls you back in. Gets some girlfiends together, hang out... dont call him, don't answer your phone, or reply to texts. Busy yourself in all your free time. Don't let him hurt you like this. If he ared he wouldnt put you through all this. It'll be hard, but it must be done. You are worth more than he is making you out to be.
2007-03-17 21:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Elise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart.......to tell you the truth you need to leave this man alone........he is playing games.....get over him you can do sooooooooooo much better....if he says he does not want you then he does not want you and leave him alone....right now you may feel like you can't get over him and seem to cry every night...........but eventually you will find someone who wont hurt you and who really cares for you.....and will treat you right and that special person is out there for you somewhere all you have to do is wait patiently and they will come to you!!!!!!!!
2007-03-17 21:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by altoidsgumlover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so your kind of obsessive when it comes to this guy that may have scared him its vary intimidating for girls to be so attached at what sounds like a young age.
if you are as young as you sound he probably will not go back out with, ok its like this when your not with someone its hard to find someone, and when your with someone it seems like the world wants you and for someone that isn't truly in love and that's week willed the temptation to take the world is just to much.
if he did love you than to see you with someone els will hurt him and make him think about what he gave up if he truly loved you
now you sound young pleas date and make sh-our who ever you fall in love with loves you more than the world.
you have the potently for great love you just have to find the right person to love
2007-03-17 21:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by love less 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he needs time
please dont continue to chase him
he can act however he want cuz he knows u are wrapped around his finger
release his hold on you
take a cue from him and date around
1,000 other fish in the sea
* if you were truly meant to be, he will come back to you. you proven ur love to him thas all u can do. its his choice now, let destiny take its course.
2007-03-17 21:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by Not here 2 make friends 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety listen,the best prediction of future behavior is past behavior. find you some one that loves you 100percent with no doubts. you sound like a nice girl and I'm sure there is a thousand good men out there looking for a girl like you. sounds to me like he is up to no good. now if i can practice what i preach. i know, and i feel for you. for me it feels like she is my air and when she is gone i cant breath when ever i think I'm losing her , its like I'm under dark water slipping deeper and deeper away from her up above ,cant breath no matter how hard i try i fight for air reaching for something to grab hold of that might let me hear her voice one last time before the dark cold depth of my sea of loneliness takes me away from forever.
2007-03-17 21:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by cool_hand_luke613 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋