i am not trying to make my boyfriend pick between me and his mum, because of course i know how important she is to him of course she is but im sick of her treating him like a mug he is her son not her slave !! thats my point im not trying to make him choose
2007-03-17 21:11:53 · 17 answers · asked by Nat xXx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well what you should do is be honest with him and just put it all out there on the table and just let him know how you feel. I think that you could be a little more understanding though but I also understand where you are coming from....but there is one thing you need to remember.........BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER.......so if you make him choose he is most likely going to choose his mother.
2007-03-17 21:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by altoidsgumlover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is sit him down and talk to him about it, but the bottom line is its his mum and he is going to do things for her, and he is not going to think that he is a mug for doing them. You are not his wife if you were you would be able to say and do more but as you are not you are just going to have to live with it. But be careful because the more you go on about his mum the more he is resent you and he might end the relationship
2007-03-18 04:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give much info on what makes you think he could be lying about... if the fact that he does much for his mother is a problem, I don't see it like that at all. How a boy relates to his mom is totally related to how he'll interact with the next woman in his life, namely his wife. I'd be happy to see a guy nice to his mom if I were you. It's a good sign, not a bad one. On the other hand, you saying she treats him like a "mug" is disrespectful towards her and might show a little ignorance and selfishness on your part. A guy who has respect for his mom might not be too quick in jumping for someone who didn't grant her the respect she deserves as his mother, to whom he owes his very existence. Think about it!
Teri
2007-03-18 04:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has he been your boyfriend? If it has been long term and he is still reacting to his mother like this, then it will not change. If you are new on the scene and neither of you are very old, then perhaps she is still trying it on.
Whatever the scenario, you need to examine your motives as well and if you feel that you are totally justified and not just being jealous of his attention to his mother, then speak to him, do not make ultimatums - that is immature. Just explain that you are not prepared to play second fiddle - then move on. You do not mention whether or not he has a father. If she is on her own, then that will make a difference.
2007-03-18 04:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by bundle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much you both like each other you will never come before his Mum, the fact is if does not want to get treated like a mug then it is up to him to stand up to his Mum.
You stay out of it babe because it will only come back to bite you on the butt, and you don't want that.
Good luck babe xxx
2007-03-18 08:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing his and your age would help. Mother's and sons..... there's a bond there, that can last a life time. If he is still young, he might not be ready to let go of his close ties with Mum, also she might be finding it hard to let go too. You need to have a chat with him, tell him, you respect his relationship with his mother, and that you admire his dedication. Also point out, that you too have a need for quality time with him. Maybe make a point of spending time with him and his mum, reassuring her, you are not possessive and trying to take him away from her.
If he's older and still tied to mother's apron strings...... you might find you have more of a challenge on your hands and you might have to accept, it's not going to change.
2007-03-18 19:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lynne Wright 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how old we get, we all try to please our parents or parent! Its a natural instinct! A good son is in turn a good husband and father!
Sometimes when we are not recieving the attention ourselves, we can become jealous of the time that our other half is spending with others! Maybe you should spend less time discussing this issue and just enjoy the time he does spend with you!
2007-03-18 04:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is the controlling sort she will up the anti if he tries to pull away. i am in a similar position with my mother and even quite late in life am trying to redress the balance. it is not easy but it needs to be done as the mental impact of having someone play with you and use emotional blackmail is far from healthy. If he is aware and feels smothered then he should take more control if he is oblivious but you see it am afraid you are on a looser.
2007-03-18 04:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just answered your other question...i didn't think that you were trying to make him choose. Like you said you just want him to stop being a mug. You want her to stop walking over him for his sake. Don't worry about it x
2007-03-18 06:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that sux!
I hate when mother is staying between couple relationships!
I think family is family and love is love
You should ignore it or be clever and become a best friend with his mother - just do what she wants, listen and agree with her opinions etc. I have to say you it's horrible. You should do it only if you really want to be his girlfriend and if you can't live without him :)
2007-03-18 04:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by woo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋