Well my sister and I were close when we were younger but when I went to college she had a rebelious spurt also I was once engaged and she never liked my fiance' this caused a rift between us, but when I left the ex or yet when he left me things began to get better... But now she has a boyfriend and I once stated that I would never tell my sister if I saw him cheating but I would lead her to finding out.. I dont start trouble but anyway hes always saying Lee youre really pretty and he smiles at me behind my sisters back... once he even rubbed his private area and mouthed at me to "ride it"... now I know if I tell my sister she would swear up and down I was just being spiteful I try to avoid him whenever he comes over but he seeks me out to mouth and do all these provocative gestures.. I know my sister he will swear I just have the hots for her man when I really dont because he reeally irks me, so tell me what can I do, say, something... Thanks!
2007-03-17 21:01:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Next time he does something like that say, loud enough for your sister to hear, "what did you just say to me?" Do that every time and I think he just may stop what he's doing. If he doesn't then try this..."Are you trying to make a pass at me, behind my sister's back? If you are, you need to know that I don't play that game...back off!" Again, this should be said loud enough for your sister to hear. Good luck and stay far away from him.....!!!
2007-03-17 21:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by minimickimichelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, does anyone else know bout this?? Anyone in ur family, apart from ur friends?
Well, what I will do is to confront the guy. Dun forget to take a tape recorder or any form of recording machine to record your conversation with the guy. Face him and tell him that you dont like his attitude towards you. He would give u a sick reply n stuff,... Remember, before u go n talk to him, the recorder should be functioning!
It would help if u can keep it close to ur person,... I would suggest between ur breast. No pun intended.
Once that is done, go to your sis n tell her the truth. If she starts getting angry at you, tell her to listen to the recording you made. All d best!
2007-03-18 04:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told her, she would ask him, he would deny it and you would be the loser. I recommend bringing a really really hot chick over when you know he'll be around, I mean a girl that has the perfect tan, the shortest skirt, the best blond and brown streaks, the cutest nose, the greatest smile, and he will have no choice but to focus only on her. And then your sister will notice how he acts towards her. Guaranteed he will act like an ***.
2007-03-18 04:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At any time when the 3 of you are sitting together ask him why did you say that , why did you do that , ....
and by that you give her time to think and at the same time you didn't tell her as you atated before .
And do that everytime he tries anything you feel he is making a pass at you .
But keep friendly with him and play innocent and that you didn't mean anything by your questions and that it was just questions because you didn't know what to do at that time .
Hope this will make your sister think .
2007-03-18 04:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your sister better better then anyone else...but after a little thought, try this:
Go to your sister and Complain! Tell her "listen I'm really getting sick and tired of your boyfriend smiling at me every time your turn your back or making sexual gestures or (insert answer here)..." If you make it seem that it's a nu sense (or your pissed) you can turn it around on her first and not make it into a big ordeal (drama), you might be able to plant doubts in her head, that might get her to be more suspicious of him and she might be able to figure it out on her own.
2007-03-18 04:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by book 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't spell it out to her, but you can spell it out to him. Tell him: "Listen, I don't tell my sister who she can date. Personally, if I did you would be at the bottome of the list. The fact is that I find your gestures to me behind my sister's back disgusting. Obviously, you know she wouldn't like it or you wouldn't hide it from her. But I respect her right to choose and I desire not to hurt her. And I want to let you know one thing: If you have ANY hope of seeing my sister, you best STOP all this sickening s*** with me. I will not be treated this way. If you don't , I am bringing all this out in the open by talking to _______.
You fill in the blank. Personally, why can't you tell your mother or father? Do you not have a boyfriend that you can tell? And another thing, I know you do not want problems with your sister and your relationship with her, but if you care for her at all, ask yourself: if I was seeing a guy like this and the tables were turned, wouldn't I expect her to tell me. Or intervene in some way?If you don't tell her, I would think that at the very least she would expect you to set this guy straight.
2007-03-18 04:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by tlbrown42000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell your sister, since things are getting better between the both of you. And anyway, the problem don't lies with her, its him. You should confront him and then totally avoid him all together. Don't even give him any chance of doing or mouthing anything. He will soon give up when he sees that he can't get to you anymore.
2007-03-18 04:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Celia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trap him with pictures or recordings. you need to tell you sister in the up most confidence, she is still you sister. If you still feel shaky about that, then you need to go the boyfriend and tell him to knock it off and leave you alone. You need to confront somebody of the two. By not doing so, your letting that is worst then telling your sister.
2007-03-18 04:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by Answerz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not tell her. If you don't want the attention or feel he should not then tell him to stop and now. If he even thinks of it again spit in his face.
If you want the attention and want him then Most likely you and your sister had better part company.
2007-03-18 04:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean... believe me I once told my sister her fiance was cheating... she didnt believe me.. she married him... within a year he'd given her an STD... they are now divorced w/ joint custody of a 3 year old... I love my niece but she could have been fathered by a better man...
Good luck!
2007-03-18 04:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by Giggagirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋