I was just wondering how many people thought if they were someone that knew for sure that they could not keep there marriage vows for life should really be getting married to begin with?
Like for instance have a problem staying faithful or honest to a loved one?
Giving up friendships with someone of the opposite sex when you marry?
Living through times of having no sex quite possibly for months at a time?
Continuing to flirt with women or men when married or in a serious relationship?
2007-03-17 20:59:56 · 13 answers · asked by Livinrawguy 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just so everyone knows this is not me I'm happily married for over 7yrs just thought I would put this question out on answers to see what people think?
2007-03-17 21:21:00 · update #1
No. if you know you could not keep your vows, then why should you commit yourself to someone you're not sure of.
When time comes that you believe your capable of keeping it with this certain person for the rest of your life then that's it.
but if your in doubt it means your not ready.
don't rush things, if you're still enjoying being single don't try to enter into a relsp that you'll end up hurting somebody and even yourself.
I'm a Catholic, I guess that's what made me feel marriage is something you can't just spit off when you don't like the taste of it. For us, it's something sacred. Sharing the rest of your life to someone special, someone you consider equally important as the air you breath and water you drink, to live forever.
2007-03-17 21:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u have found some one that u really love, would u actually let her go? In my opinion, u should take the risk and marry her...that if u really love her. Because, everyone would have the same thought that they probably couldn't keep their vows for life. But when they experience marriage life, their view might change. They would feel responsible for everyone around them. They wouldn't want to hurt their loved ones especially when they have children.
My point is that no one knows what the future might be no matter how well u organize. Also, people could change by time.
2007-03-18 04:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by violett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have to give up friendships with people of the opposite sex when you marry? My best guy friend (who I dated for five years) stood up in my wedding. I haven't slept with him since 2001; I got married in '03.
And no, I wouldn't get married if I had any doubt about remaining faithful. My "greatest temptation" reappeared back into my life about a month after I met my husband. We weren't even officially an "item" yet. I knew I wanted to marry the guy I had recently met, so I resisted. Dude still calls occasionally to make sure I'm still married. I think I've seen him twice since my wedding: once he came over to watch the wedding video at a time when my husband could've walked in the door at any minute (work had some flexible overtime hours going on) and the other time, he met up with us at the health club.
2007-03-18 05:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't but marriage is not always like that.I married my husband when I was 16,seven years later we still have sex no less than 3 times a week and its still just as fun! But anyway when you love someone, I mean really love someone you would give up anything to spend your life with them! I really think that people take marriage too lightly and end up in a marriage with someone that was really only a fling!
2007-03-18 04:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by goodgirl5567 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they dont mind paying large alimony and perhaps large child support payments once they find they "could not keep their marriage vows for life" then they should go ahead. Also if disappointing loved ones, especially children is no problem for their conscience, go ahead.
If commitment is a problem you should focus on having sex-workers(nothing personal against them, poor souls) for your companionship and not involve those pursuing a real life. Have you seen the Saturday Night Live episode where the guy tells his wife the reason he's cheating on her is due to a medical condition called restless pen..syndrome? HAHA that sounds like your future excuse . Sorry for you it is not going to go over well.
Hope it works out for ya.
2007-03-18 04:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you dont get married if you dont think you can keep your vows. The whole point of marriage is to stay in it for the rest of your life.
2007-03-18 11:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if it ends up working out that you cannot keep your vows for life-who knows what life can throw at you-you should never enter into anything believing from the start that you will fail.
2007-03-18 09:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't. It will be entirely pointless to get married if you have no plans to keep your vows. Vows are basically promises, which when they are broken can hurt many people, especially your spouse, in the end.
2007-03-18 04:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by rece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but that doesnt stop a lot of people. I didnt have any problems with MY vows in marriage. That didnt stop my ex spouse though. peace
2007-03-18 04:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! you should not marry, if you know your couldn't keep your vows for life.
2007-03-18 04:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by David Fhu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋