i'am a single dad of two girls 17 AND 13 YEARS OLD?

Question

my 17 years old wants to move out with her boyfriend who she met around 2 months ago ,i beleive she's making the bigest mistake and will hurt her life and future ,how can i stop her from doing it ,she's making her sister crying every time she talks about it,and i'am about to have a heartattack over it,i need help ,any advice what to do ,i love my girls more than any thing even more than my self please help me with any idea.thanks

Answer 1

Your going to have to talk to her like an adult and tell her how you feel about the whole situation, and you also have to listen to what she has to say about it too. If you can't t talk her out of it then you might have to let her go and make the mistake you know she will make, just make sure you are there for her when she needs you.

Answer 2

Wow, I feel so bad for you but to tell you the truth all we can do as parents is make sure they know that there are consequences they may have to pay for mistakes and then let them make their own minds up and if they fall be there for them each time wiling to help. I have a 27 year old now who still knows he can come to me when he needs my help but I have never interfered with his choices. When he was 9 he wanted to wrestle. Being small built I knew there would be some drawbacks but instead of putting the idea down I wound up giving shoulder massages after each meet. When he was 12 he wanted to get a dirt bike. I made him take lessons and then helped him save for the bike. After many bumps and bruises I remembered that I had been doing things this way since kindergarten. I was scared he would get hurt on the monkey bars so before school started I took him a few times up to the school yard and showed him how to be safe on them and then sent him to school along with the other parents in the area. Life's tough and we each have decisions to make but if you try to tell a child they have no right to make up theri own mind they will most likely wind up wondering about every decision they make in life and will it be a mistake. The fact is that mistakes are not the easiest way to learn life lessons but they are by far the fastest way. God bless.

Answer 3

When I was younger, my parents decided they were going to give up on me. They let me go out on my own to experience the world on myself when I was 16.
I never forgave them and they never forgave me. To this very day we can't talk to eachother because we feel as though we both betrayed eachother when we needed family the most.

she has only known this guy for 2 months, she's known you for 17 years. If you stop her she will forgive you. She knows youre doing it because you love her but at this age - she just wants her freedom.

She will probably run away after you remind her that she is not 18 and not going anywhere(especially if she cant see the boy) so call the police. They'll bring her home and she will know better than to leave.

Sometimes tough love is bvetter than no love at all.

Answer 4

In my state they have to remain at home until they are 19 as long as they are in school. At any rate she is not 18 & you can make her stay or have her sent off if she won't do what you tell her talk to the department of human resources in your area or the circuit judge. Personally, you really just need to sit down & find out why it is she wants to do this & explain to her she really needs to keep the security you provide for her & that you really want her to stay at home until she is of legal age so neither one of you will get in any trouble with the law. Also explain that if she is living with him she can be locked up for being a runaway. Above all don't have a screaming match, try to remain calm & if you really don't want her to go there are measures you can take to stop her from living with him. Let her know that.Tell her she really needs to think about this because anything could happen & she really needs to find out more about him before she moves in with him. He is still on his best behavior right now. Only time will tell how good he really is going to be to her.

Answer 5

Give her the lip service of "Im cutting you off!" You have to make it sound believable or it won't work. If you cut her off from dad and dad resources, she'll think twice if the boyfriend it kinda lazy and such. If the boyfriend is an overall good man and person, you job has the father needs to be weekly check up of things. Just check-ups, not the full blown invasion. If she isn't gonna give on not moving out, the little sis might come in handy; try to convince through your 13yo, that might work if ALL fails.

Answer 6

dont forbid her, but maybe tell her she can't until she's 18.. is she almost 18? I never wanted to move out like that, or ever move in with a B/F but I"m glad my parents didn't let me do anything and everything I wanted to. She technically can't move out at 17 without your premission... unless there's some new law's in other states.. I was raised in California.. lol but I really dont think she should move out.. she will be making a big mistake... she is a big impact on her sister. If she moves out, things will change with the younger one... if she will insist on moving out with him, maybe comprimise and let him move near by? do you have a problem with them being in the same room? I would...but I dont know how it is with your family. If you want to keep her home, and hope they break up soon... maybe try that...

Answer 7

Dis isnt gud. At 17 she is wiling to move out wif a guy she just got to know for the past 2 months?? Nope, dis aint gud at all.

I would suggest counselling. If you dont have an answer to this, counselling might. If all doesnt work. Its time to step into ur parent shoes and ground her.

Answer 8

You need to become like Superman (so to speak) instead of Clark Kent IMMEDIATELY!

You are extremely weak and I picked up on this right away. You don't come on Yahoo Answers asking advice about this - you should know it as a Dad, and heck must freeze over before you allow your teen daugher to do that.

Furthermore, you might want to tell the guy to stay away. Sorry, YOU'RE WEAK!

Answer 9

well, I hate to tell ya dad. but your little girl is growing up. regardless of the fact that a father knows best. that will not keep her from moving out. She feels that she is mature enough and maybe she is.
but we all learn from our own experiences, good or bad.
and she is going to stumble and fall as she matures.
you need to let her.
she needs to learn her own life lesson's.
And all you can do, is try to guide h er in the right direction;
give her advice and some of your wisdom,
but it will, in the end be up to her own decision.
Free Will.
I know how hard it is, myself. for I have a 26 year old boy, and a 18 yr. old boy, and my daughter will be 13.
so believe me, I totally understand your dilema, but all you can do is to guide her the best you can.
sorry,
but it will in the end, be up to her. regardless if we see it as a mistake,, she doesn't .. atleast not yet.

Answer 10

It depends a lot on what she thinks she'll get she isn't getting at home. Attention? Freedom? Respect? Drugs? Escape from abuse?

Anyhow, the big big risk is that she gets pregnant. All other disasters are much less likely. I'd say you should concentrate your attempts to influence her on that point.