Should I say this to her? I'm still trying to get it right before I just give up?

Question

Hey. How are you? From the moment we stopped talking, I missed you. I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I've worked on those things to improve myself. A special girl like you is hard to find, you're unlike any friend I've ever had. No other girl is as amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, and beautiful as you. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad, or your bright smile. I miss when we used to talk and I would really like to work on things and get to know you again. I really care about you and like I said, you're special to me. I'm tired of playing silly games around you, trying to act like you're not when you really are. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid for not understanding then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I

had for you.
I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, it's alot worse. For the things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you. If what you want is to never see me or speak to me again, I will just try to let you go just because I only want to make you happy. (END)

This one below I didn't write it was shortened for me. I just don't feel right saying or giving her something I didn't write. I have a new fear now that I'll forget what I want to tell her, or that the words won't come out if it seems like she's not listening or listening too hard, what do I do about that?


Hey. How are you? You know, ever since we stopped talking, I realized how much I missed you. I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I've really grown and worked on things to improve my life. I'll understand if you still think you made the best decision by breaking up with me, but I know that a special girl like you is hard to find. I'm grateful that you know me better than anyone else. I know that we had our ups and downs, and I would really like to work on things and get to know you again. I think there is a lot that we can learn about one another. I will respect whatever decision you make. Take care. (END of 2nd letter)

Which one should I use? Her 17th b-days in two weeks. I'm 17 as well. I've liked her since I was 15 and she was 15, when we met, and 4 months into the year 2006 (we were both 16) we talked but after that I did something by mistake, she got mad at me, and I gave her space. When I tried to talk to her she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I've tried to move on but I feel like I need her friendship back. Could I have given her too much space (a month and a half), to where she'd think I must not care since I didn't try my hardest to get her back, and that's why she said she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. By the way, when I talked to her online after that about it, she always responded when I said something. Should I post the conversation so I can get some interpretations of it?

"Should I post the conversation so I can get some interpretations of it?" I mean that I can still read it and can place it here so you can see if she really 100% didn't want to talk to me

I think I'm going to try talking to her then say this if it seems like she doesn't want to talk to me

Answer 1

This is good bro...just don't change yourself...and don't let it look like you are giving power to her...some take advantage of your kindness.....But welll written, and good luck.

Answer 2

First of all if u did something 2 make her go then u need 2 let it go. But if what u did is not understand her than there r ways 2 change that behavior. U want her I don't know if u love her. Because 2 love her u have 2 want 2 give her all of you. All the things that hurt u , all the things that drive u, and all things that make u. First of all fix yourself make her want you( women want a man that know what they want but security is the key . If she loved u once, than showing her u have moved on but got better will make her want u again.) Don't be a stalker all women will flee if u r always there.

Answer 3

Dude if I was her, I'd totally think about everything! That was like the sweetest letter ever from a guy=) Just I think you should say it to her in person, so he can see you express how much she means to you.. [: It seems really memorized.. say it from what you feel, not what's written on paper.. And definately say the longer one, that you thought of yourself. Because that is out of your own heart and no one else's. Good luck.. I hope she comes back to you... I can tell you care about her and you deserve to have her back!

Answer 4

idk, it sounds like u r groveling and trying to tell her what she wants to hear. that might not b the case, but thats what i thought. b more specific on the "...things u were mad at me about. ive worked on those things to improve myself."part. say something like "i know u didnt like that i went to clubs w other girls, so ive eliminated that from my life, and that u didnt like my drinkin problem, so ive been going to a group" u know? cite what u have been doing to really change, or it sounds like bs. if u tell her then she knows u really knew what it was that was bothering her and that u r doing something to fix it. this was ur gf right? i wa sassuming this was to ur exgf after u broke up, if it is, then great. if this is a girl u r trying to get to go out with u, do not under any circumstancs give her that note, cuz u will sound like a stalker.

Answer 5

I think you just did say it to her. Don't just stand there, go after her!!!! Good luck!!

Answer 6

Sure.