i'm 30 this year but still cannot find gf.sometimes i feel really shame when people ask me when marry or where is my gf.most of my friend and relative at my age already have relative including my brother.i know its because of my own weakness.i'm too shy when talking to girls especially to girls i like.some more my lifestyle is boring.i don't have much friends and most of them is guy.i really worry now and i start feel that i'll become single forever.
2007-03-17 20:39:05 · 29 answers · asked by Chong F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are still YOUNG!!! You are actually prime, because girls are divorcing their first husbands and looking for a nice guy to spend their lives with at this age (believe me, most of my 33 year old friends are on their second marriage). You have locked yourself into thinking you are shy. I used to be the same way. Look at yourself as a new person. Dress a little differently, think of yourself a little differently....it works! Talk to all the girls your age! They won't care, believe me! We like the conversation and meeting new people. If we aren't interested, don't feel bad. We are probably not at the point of looking or meeting someone. We will tell you. I have NEVER been mean to any guy who talked to me, asked me to dance, bought me a drink or just got to know me. I always thought it was nice and enjoyed it. I never laughed or made fun of them for any reason! I'm sure there are girls WISHING you would come up to them. We enjoy the attention! You don't even have to talk about your "boring" life.....just ask them about THEIR BORING LIFE!!!!!!!! Girls like the nice guy, and you seem like one of them. You should have NO problem!
2007-03-17 20:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by bubblingbroo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You willl meet some one, stop being so hard on your self. When the time is right you will find that special some one. Tell others that you want the person that you are going to be with to be some one special. That you don't want to be with just any one.
But, again don't be so hard on your self. Maybe try going to more social events, you need to try to open up and realize that you won't look like fool. Every one is some times shy, but don't worry so much about being shy, just open up and start talking with the ladies. You wil be just fine.
I think you are letting others put too much pressure on you to find that right person, and that alone makes you nervous. Relax and just be your self. You may also want to see if your friends know people that they could introduce you to just to help get you started.
And one final thought 30 isn't too old, as a matter of fact at 30 you are more mature and wiser than when you were younger. So you will be really ready to be with some one, you will be mature and settled down. Unlike when you were younger, when we are younger we are not as mature. So you are really ready to be with some one than when you were younger. Your life is more stable now that you are 30 then when you were in your 20's.
2007-03-17 20:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you seem to be a shy guy. I suggest you take a community college class to meet people. Also internet dating is always a option where you can post your profile and people can answer it. If you have a lot of guyfriends, can't someone set you up on a blind date? I know a lot of academic single women myself and you would be perfect for them. You can also start internet friendship etc. The most important advice I have for you is to ask out A LOT of women and assume you will have a 95% rejection rate so you must go for the number and not stop. You must be proactive because women won't hit on you, you will put it on your list and you will have a gf in no time. You might also want to do a makeover of yourself. Ask a fashionable woman for advice.
2007-03-17 20:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by DVS1hmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you. It can't be easy to excel in relationships, being shy by nature.
30 is still young! take advantage of your youth and join some groups that could help you combat shyness. Join a small drama group or book club, Something where you will have to speak to a group of people. Keep your eyes open you will find a group that is suited to your character.
There are alot of shy people out there and wouldn't it be a crime if you miss your girl because neither of you could get over the first hurdle to speak?
I hope this goes well for you!
2007-03-17 20:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up hope, my brother in law will be turning 31 in a few days and just got married to a women a year older than him last week and he'd only met her a few months ago. Before that, he'd been living with us (my husband and I) right from the time we were dating and then moved in togther and now here we are, 4yrs married in the summer. I thought he was never gonna get married either!!! It took so long!
So if he's able to find somebody, finally, then you can too!!!
2007-03-17 20:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. Just try to go out and meet some people - try to get over your shyness. If you have to, move to another location for a fresh start.
Even if you do not find a girlfriend, you can find something. If you hit 38 and are still single - then maybe you can become a monk?
2007-03-17 20:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you may have some confidence issues....
Change the way you dress...the way you cut your hair, join a gym and start working out....
Do positive things for yourself....spend a bit of money on yourself...
Go to you rlocal college and take some speech courses...they make you stand in front of class and speak...get out of that stage fright stage and put yourself out there.
Talk to an attire consultant....they will help you pick clothes that will help change you! Also take some etiquette classes to show you how to dine out....read the paper...read magazines...this will help you talk about many different things...
Then you will figure out how to get a feel for the way a girl thnks....the looks parts are easy, f you like what you see fine...otherwise....you can learn to say I don't feel it.
Good luck!!
2007-03-17 20:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by tito_swave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a dating service. I've met people off there and it wasn't too bad. It might help bring you out of your shell a little. If you don't like the idea of marketing yourself like that, join eHarmony. You've seen the commercials.. and if not go to the website. They match you based on a profile. It's expensive but worth it from what I hear. :)
2007-03-17 20:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nemesista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah.. nobody's ever to old.. are you picky like me? LOL I haven't dated in like..5 years..but that's because I keep turning down the 3 guys that did ask me out... wouldn't of worked out so I said no.. the problem is that guys I like never ask me... and the ones I end up asking end up not liking me! I have terrible timing... just tell you rrellitives you are taking your time to find the RIGHT one instea dof setteling for 2nd best... you aren't american are you... your english isn't exactaly... up to par... what do you speak and where do you live? a lot of us feel like we'll be single forever...but you have to keep that hope that someday you wont be.. =)
2007-03-17 20:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up, there is always hope for love!
Try talking to girls, just as friends...sometimes it will evolve from there, if you're having problems asking them out.
There is no shame in being single too!
2007-03-17 20:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋