im feeling so hurt and so sad and upset .. that after all 9 months with the guy i believed and loved with all my heart..
everything all the dreams of future is not there now..
he is dating around to see if it helps him to get over me he said he wants to go back to the way he was before i met him.
he says he doesnt feel anything for them and its not helping but he somehow knows he will get over me even though that he says he isnt sure what he wants says that he has feelings for me but dont love me, says he misses me alot but dont want to be with me.. he says he will hurt alot and that it hurts now knowing that i'll be with someone else but he'll get over it!
im so stupid i even spoke to him on the phone said its me now or never that i dont want to lose what we had that noone will love him like me. He says he isnt 100% sure he wants to be with me and he isnt 100% sure he doesnt.. then i called him again and he said i dont want you, i dont love you........ >>read additional details>>
2007-03-17 20:38:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
....i dont need your help, even though he was crying in the last phone call and in the txts before he said he dont wanna loose me forever and that he will always regret it and that i was his everything.
what am i supposed to do.. its been 3 weeks and i still cry each night, i said to him i want to be happy with him, i told him to not push love away that he doesnt have to go through pain he can have me but i cant be friends with him anymore it breaks my heart and i cant see this over guy coz its unfair on him..coz if u decide u want me i will have to drop him for you.. then he said he would do that for me.. drop all girls but yet... WHY the HELL was he so stubborn and saying at the end i DONT WANT YOU.. i said i hope one day you will realise youre making a mistake! ...
NOW please someone tell me what is he going through?? and WHY??
do guys sometimes need to be single for a while to see if anyone else will feel the same.
will he come back to me i want him so bad but not like this!
2007-03-17 20:39:03 · update #1
Hey honey!!!
You need to leave that clown in the dust... If he ever calls you again with some of his stupid stories, just tell him to f*ck off.
You deserve way better than he can offer you, believe me...
2007-03-17 20:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mac-C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems the man is going through a stage of withdrawal. Although this may seem somewhat blunt, in actuality, he may not want to go out with you. However, he is so adapted to having you around that his heart or mind denies his decision, thus creating a conflict between the heart and mind. It's like moving away from the norm; its uncomfortable and sometimes heartrendering.
As for you, I could probably say the same. It's sad, but you two are probably going through very similar symptoms caused by traditionally the same problem. Both of you are so use to having each other that once you are separated, even though it was your decision, you are still aching because its just well... different! Relate to a person trying to quit smoking and you will hopefully understand.
Advice: Just keep pushing. You will get through it; human nature tends to move on, by one mean or another. Some however go through extreme measures, and I pray to God you won't do anything like that. The withdrawal symptoms vary upon each person; some are clear of all thoughts by one week, others seem to be engulfed for nearly 6 months sometimes a year. But be strong and I'm sure everything will turn out to be for the better.
Good Luck and Take Care!
2007-03-17 20:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by Philosophical One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest to yourself it's over.Do not dwell on the past but look for the future. After all 9 months is really not that long,im sure you are an attractive woman and you will be on your feet in no time.You should lose all contact with him and start seeing other people. He sounds like a cold hearted person. Sometimes tears are a medication for healing so cry a little then wipe them away and and when you do say to yourself there he goes on the tissue and now in the trash. I hope the best for you, good luck.
2007-03-17 20:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by elmer b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship is hard to get over-even if you feel the person was not right for you. It seems this guy doesn't want to commit to you however he doesn't want to cut off ties permanently just in case he doesn't meet someone else who wants a relationship with him. He could be leading you on in case he ever needs a booty call. My advise is to forget about this guy-I believe that if you have to convince someone you belong together-in reality you don't or he would know that. You can't make someone want you or want to be with you. Never seem too needy or too desperate to be involved with a guy-that is when he will take advantage and cheat on you and think you will always forgive him. Looking at this from an unbiased perspective I really think you should give the other guy a chance because this first guy is just jealous you found someone else-that's all. He doesn't really want you-he's just in love with the idea that you love him. Period.
2007-03-17 20:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny,
if a guy treats you with sooooooooooooooooo much disrespect then what is the point of wanting to date him again?
i know that feeling, when you want him, but he dnt want you, it hurts but boys WILL do that and as long as they think they are winners they will keep doing it! and i personally think that you should get a new boy friend that dnt wanna knock you up and show him what he is missing out on i hope i have helped you heaps try my advise and if it dnt work email me kk : )
2007-03-17 20:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by Cj : ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I said, he's playing games with you. Don't let him be wishy washy with your heart. Being wishy washy about a steak or a burger that's one thing, but if he respects you at all he'll stop being a P U double S Y with your heart. You deserve better.
2007-03-17 20:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are super stubborn.. if he wants to date around, let him.. he wants you but he wants to F around... thats what it sounds like to me.. you could take him back which is exactly what he wants but you have to think about the reason why he broke it off with you.. to go date around.. if he doesnt like what he had with you then there was no reason for him to leave... and thats all i got to say about that..
2007-03-17 20:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by LION 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boy is confused, scared, whatever the reason he is not ready for any kind of commitment. If you desire drama, stick with him.
2007-03-17 20:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by someone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes playing you...better find someone who will treat you like a queen...
2007-03-17 20:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋