i need a break from my b/f.. maybe even to break it off. I have recently been talking with my ex and i really miss him. He moved away and because of the distance we split up. I love him. But i dont know what i want.
My b/f has been away for 3 months and is finaly comming home also. I'm very confused and dont want to hurt him because i care about him. I can't say i love him but i do have feelings for him.
How do i tell him i need some time by myself to figure things out? Without making him upset or hurt.
Please help.
2007-03-17 19:58:48 · 13 answers · asked by angeliss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let your boyfriend catch you in bed with your returning BF. That'll let him know just what kind of person you are and will probably send him away screaming.
Or you could just sleep with his brother or dad. That'd do it too.
2007-03-17 20:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by Love Answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do it without hurting him. That's like asking how can you get a root canal without it hurting. It's impossible, but sometimes it is necessary. The best and most respectful thing you can do at this point is be honest with him.. brutally honest. Do you really want a break? or do you want to break up? Don't sugar coat it. I have never been in a relationship that I needed a break from that worked out. So... just be honest and tell him how you feel. It will save him heartache later.
2007-03-17 20:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Miss D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him some things have been going on in your life and you dont want anything to get out of control or ruin your relationship so you'd rather take a break and try to work things out. Tell him you care for him but you dont want to hurt him in any way and have anything ruin the special bond you have with each other.
Just be upfront and honest but be very sweet and make sure he knows that you really do care about him, but for the mean time you shouldnt date your ex, you should figure things out and make sure you dont screw up the good relationship you currently have or maybe screw up the relationship you can create with your ex. Remember as nice as you are to your bf it may still hurt him to know that you two are breaking it off. So be as sweet as you can be.
2007-03-17 20:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Diana_Is_Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will hurt him regardless because he will want to be with you and he can't. you will need to accept the fact that you might lose him in the process. he might hang around but things more than likely won't be the same if you get back together. since he is coming home soon how about hanging out with him a few times and see if you still feel this way before going this route. if you insist on doing this then i'd suggest being "busy" doing something for awhile (work, school ect.) and that way you won't lose him but you'll get your space.
2007-03-17 20:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't anyway that you can tell him that without him being hurt. The best thing I think you can do is tell him exactly what you said here, although you do not love him, you still have feelings for him, and you need time to make up your mind because it is not fair to him. Atleast that way you show some respect for his well being. Relationships can hurt, but being straight foward and respectful is the best thing you can do.
Good luck.
2007-03-17 20:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. You're going to hurt him no matter what. There's no way to avoid that. If you want to see how you really feel, tell him you need a break. He's going to be mad & hurt but in the end, you'll get the break you need.
2007-03-17 20:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre young, say it and get it over with, he'll get over it... the both of you still have a lot to see and do and break would be a great thing.. Good Luck oh yea you should always follow your ♥
2007-03-17 20:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Giggagirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a guy and i have a similar problem ok my best friend (guy) borke up with his ex and i like her (considerably) but i have a gf that i like but not as much but my gf is and old ex from a relationship of 4 months and i broke up with her the day after valentines day should i break up with her again and try to have a chance with my best friend's ex (which he still likes)???
please help!
2007-03-17 20:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by asdf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just ask him to slow things down or just tell him that "we need a break" I think no matter what he is going to be upset sorry
2007-03-17 20:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant not hurt him , but dont act like everything is normal before you tell him , then its more of a shock. tell him like as soon as you see him
2007-03-17 20:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by PradoSam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋