Long story short...me and my boyfriend (2+yrs) used to live together (b/c I had a roomate ditch me and he helped by moving in). So that went on for about year and a half. However when the lease was up he said that that wasn't his plan to live with me right away so he wants to live on his own.At first this kinda hurt me, he doensn't want to live with me?it's like working backwards. So we moved out and the first week was fine-I was over at his place nearly everyday. But it got kinda boring, he never wanted to go anywhere b/c he was tired(new job for him). Then we just started fighting constantly. It's like we are drifting apart, things just aren't the same, it's like we've lost our passion. It really sucks b/c it looks like we're going to breakup. I don't know what to do-maybe I'm just hanging on to him like a security blanket. But I just can't see myself without him I feel like I put more into this than he does. It makes me sad and this is the 1st real relationship I've had..any advice?
2007-03-17 19:56:36 · 4 answers · asked by cjb 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um, first of all don't call me "honey" or "dear", I appreciate your help and it's nice of you to take the time, but I'm in collge so I'm not that young...just a little lost about love...The only relationship that I've seen work are my 80yr old grandparents, so I want to be cautious but not regret letting anything go....
2007-03-17 20:21:09 · update #1
In any relationship problem you have to, confront him, make it absolutely clear that there is a problem, explain exactly (or the best of your ability) what it is, and ask if he is willing to work with you in some sort of compromise.
2007-03-17 20:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Zombie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the key statement u said was "this is the 1st real relationship i've had". FIRST meaning, there will be MORE dear. look, i know its tough, but people DO grow apart. its normal, and its healthy. i'm sorry u are hurting right now, but honestly, its not the end of the world. i think the smartest thing would be to break up with him. u sound young, so there will be more guys, BETTER GUYS. but for now, maybe u should just try being single, and focusing on yourself, such as school, work, and friends. work on making yourself more well-rounded, by joining clubs, or learning new hobbies. who knows? maybe just spending more time with friends, u will get introduced to mr. right! i'm sorry this relationship didn't work out for u, but i'm positive that someday, it will be your turn for lasting happiness in love. just stay positive and strong, and things will work out ok in the end.
2007-03-18 03:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by waterlily750 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Honey, I'm sorrry you're so sad. Your message describes a classic story. You tried it, it didn't work out. The man is obviously ready to move on. You should do the same. I'm not saying it's easy, but until you do you have no chance at happiness. If nothing else, believe this---it's his loss. Good luck and I wish you all the best.
2007-03-18 03:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by olelady55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u just shouldve gave each other space.i mean like u shouldve lived apart.thats how ur passion went away cos u see each other evryday and u get bored.u always knwo a person after u've decided sumthng u thought was good
if ever u break up dont take it seriously or nothng wil happen
2007-03-18 03:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by εїзR@iiNεїз 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋