I have no idea what to do or if there is even anything i can do. My life just seems like it is terrible and it keeps on getting worse as i go on. I have no plan for my future i don't know how i'm going to live when i graduate and am out on my own. I'm totally alone i have no girlfriend and no real friends. Girls ignore me. I swear there is nothing i can do. I can't even get chicks that go to my school to respond to my messages on myspace!!! Here i'll be graduating next year and then it will be all over. I'll be some loser either living with his parents or some loser living in an apartment somewhere. If I can't get a girl in high how the hell will it even be remotely possible after i graduate? Life just sucks at times i just want to shoot myself for real or something.
2007-03-17 19:46:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
High school is not an indicator of how your life is gonna be. Most people who peak in high school are losers in later life. Don't fret. So what if stupid high school girls won't talk to you. More than likely, they don't know what they want and they play games. You're better off without them (and I'm a girl!). You will be surprised how much life changes after high school. When you're grown, you don't act the same in high school (hopefully). People mature and women will notice you, take my word.
I know you want life to be fabulous right now and you don't think things will change but, they will. I didn't have alot of boyfriends in high school. I only had one. Once I got out of high school, got a real job and lived in the real world, I got all kinds of dates. Once people grow up, they realize what they want and horizons broaden. People that wouldn't talk to you in high school suddenly see what a great person you are. High school kids are more obsessed with what's on the outside than what's on the inside.
I know you don't want to hear this but, focus on school right now. It sucks but you need to finish. You're young, life hasn't begun yet and you're ready to give up. Don't. I really wouldn't tell you this stuff if it weren't true. I have no reason to lie to you. You're not gonna be a loser unless you do nothing with your life. Just because you don't have everything figured out right now, that doesn't mean you'll end up a loser. It just means you're human and not yet prepared. Nothing wrong with that.
Give life some time to unfold before you give up on it. We've all felt the way you feel now. I'm 28 and I sometimes feel like you do but, I know that life had peaks & valleys. Things always work out, you just have to be patient and allow things to happen. You can't be president of the bank with a hot chick by your side right out the gate. You haven't even run the race yet and you want the prize. Ease up, take a deep breath and chill.
2007-03-17 20:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you think is what you get. If you think you can't do anything, you really won't do anything. If you think you will be a loser you'll be a loser. Try to change your thinking pattern. You find it easy to think that you'll be a loser, because you have trained your mind to think so. Train your mind to think positive. It'll take some time, but it will become a habit again. Then you'll easily think that you'd be a winner, and you will win.
Your future depends on your present acts. So, if you keep yourself busy thinking about the future, you are losing the present. Concentrate on the present. Concentrate on your studies now. Help your friends now in whatever manner you can. Try to keep a smile on your face all the time now.
Your future will give you the 'present'.
2007-03-18 02:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by Subhendu S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for not having a plan for your future, that's normal, I had a teacher that told us she changed majors about 5 times, she told us it's ok to not know because along the way you'll find something your interested in and go from there.
As for dating in High School, I'm a senior and never had a bf, and I used to get really upset about it, and sometimes I still do get annoyed especially since prom is coming up, but I figure that If I don't meet anyone here, I'll find that speacial person sooner or later in life after High School, but hey, you never know, maybe someone does like you and they are just too shy to say anything to you, don't give up :).
2007-03-18 02:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpink221 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is as bad as it seams and i am a goth!!! if u cant get a girl mby ur just looking in the wrong places and at the wrong ppl. after u graduate u might go to uni where there are all kind sof girls who would kill 2 have u!!! if u r still sure you have hit the bottom there is no place but up!!
live life and you wont regret a thing take some chances even if u get shut down u cant say 'i wish ...'when ur old and grey!!
2007-03-18 02:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by gothic girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are putting too much emphasis on girls and please dont be so silly about the suicide conotation. Please please, give yourself a bit of space and try to love yourself. You need to go easy, find the good things about yourself and enhance them. Perhaps you should look in the mirror and decide what you can do to change your image... maybe you could get a new haircut and try a different personality on with it... dont worry if it doesnt work out immediately. Once i read this saying and it stuck with me.... act the way you wish you were.... meaning if you wish you were heaps popular, act that way, if you wish you were heaps attractive act that way, before too long you will believe it and become it.... It worked for me. All you lack is confidence. It is so true that you must love yourself before you love anyone. Be kind to yourself.... please dont do the cowardly thing. I was also told at a very young age that if you commit suicide you will go directly to hell, God does not forgive you for this. I believe this. Please pray to God for strenght and ask him to open doors to find yourself. I am sure when you are older you will be looking back at this time in your life and think, gee why was I so strung out, I had heaps going for me. WE ALL GET DEPRESSED, We all wish we were more attractive, smarter, richer, funnier etc, this is normal so accept who you are and make the most of it. Youth is beautiful, dont waste yours. GODS SPEED to you, take it easy XX
2007-03-18 02:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by gudsport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, cool down. everything will work out. if your having girl problems then i dont think you should go after them, i think you should make something of yourself and have the girls come to you. i have complete faith that you can be something amazing if you really want to. please dont end your life because youve given up hope, i believe in you =)
i can be a friend, right? haha i hope so. good luck dude
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