ah someone help meeee!?

Question

i was super close with my best guy friend a couple years ago, but we decided to go out and that was the best year of my life. i was so afraid of commitment though, i was young and i didnt want to deal with it. i broke it up, and since then things just started falling apart. now we barely talk and I ABSOLTLY HATE IT!!! i take everything back! ive dated other people but no one compares to him. i cry every day because i just miss him so much, we're so opposite and i like it that way. im girly and hes some punk skater. i already told him my feelins and he said that i should just forget about him because he doesnt want to go back. but i know he has to miss what we had, nothing compares to what we had. the point is, its been about 3 weeks since i told him i loved him and he broke up with his girlfriend. is this a sign? ive given him space and i cant take anymore of this "waiting" i love him and i want him back, but how is this going to happen? can someone please tell me some things i can do?

dude im serious right now, im not f*cking around. i love the kid

thanks creastian909, thats the kind of support im looking for right now. i want to know what i CAN do, i dont want to be told that ive blown it.

ahhh thanks Teri =) i already read the bible, i have good grades, improved my attitude and quit lying. i know he sees it, but my friends tell me that they think hes testing me to see how long i can last like this without going back to a stuck up liar.

thanks alot though!

Answer 1

He told you he would not get back together with you...You need to move on....

Answer 2

You sound like a pretty smart cookie and you may be right in how he might have called it "quits" with this new gal, to take a back seat as it were and reflect on all you told him and analyze the situation for what it really is. You're right to give him the necessary space right now. The one thing that might attract him back to you (if nothing seriously bad happened before you broke up and if he didn't feel betrayed in his friendship with you!) is if he sees you (from a distance) living as smart as you can, as a mature grown-up (good men tend to stay away from needy, clingy, people and prefer a more independant soul, who knows how to make the right choices for herself, one day at a time.) The more he hears that you are doing well, staying out of trouble with other boys etc., the more he should be willing and looking forward to meet with you again. Friends are a special breed of people and not easily forgotten. Take your time, take care of yourself and give to those in need and silently pray your heavenly father to assist you in your efforts to make a good life for yourself. You're so young... the sky's the limit for all the good you can do in any direction you decide to go in. Just take long walks, deep breaths, healthy meals and remember to drink at least 8 glasses of water a day. You have no idea how much this little tip will truly help you as the day go by for it even helps the brain to function at a higher capacity and not a part of the body doesn't benefit from your daily intake of fresh water. Nothing else will do. Last but not least, remember to smile. Do these things and I'd like to hear from you again in two months. Check the word "discipline" in your dictionary and practice it every day. Once you've done that, open your bible to the book of Galatians, chapter 5, verses 22 and 23. Discipline yourself to practicing one of those daily and it will lead to you being more happy than you ever knew could be possible. Teri

Answer 3

I feel bad for you, but i dont know really if there is anything you can do but wait and see what happens------sometimes we just screw up and break up with someone and realize after is was a mistake, but then once you have broke up mo matter how bad you want what you had back-you either cant have it or if you do it is never the same-i am not trying to make you feel bad or worse then you do, but its just a fact that some of us have o learn in our life..

Answer 4

I know your tired of waiting but take it slow until you know if he feels the same way and too make sure that his ex girlfriend isn't that serious or at least he wasn't that serious about her because you don't want to get hurt. Good luck

Answer 5

you shouldn't have said nothing about it for 3weeks
tell him you regret it all
that you really need him, tell him that it's impossible for you to love anyone but him. if he tells you that time would fix that or something, just tell him that it won't because 3 weeks have already gone and your feelings to him have still not changed!
use yourlady charms!<3 you can do it! do everything to win his heart back
ask for forgiveness, beg if you have to! ask for another chance...and tell him if the second chance doesn't work out, then you guys are going to really brake up....

Answer 6

Get over it, if you are really supposed to be friends you will end up together eventually. The atmospheric currents will direct you back to each other LOL whatever

Answer 7

I know this type of situation sucks. Things will turn out the way they are suppose to. Sometimes we can't control things. Whatever is best for you, will happen.

Answer 8

Have patience. I think he has lost the feelings for you. To get it back takes time. Try to be there for him, be nice to him, smile at him often, call him 'once-in-a-while', don't be agreesive, play your feminity, remember his and his family's birthday's and call, support his career, games or schooling.

Be there without he feeling pressured. Best of luck!!