One moment he tells me that there will be a chance of us getting together but the next moment he tells me that there will be no chance.
He still replies to my text msgs and will contact me whenever I stop contacting him. He shows his concern for him whenever I'm sick or upset. At other times, He seems uninterested and leaves me alone. Why is he acting this way? From what I know, there is no other love interest in his life and he is NOT a play boy. He is unlikely to treat girls as his sparetypre.
2007-03-17 19:29:38 · 10 answers · asked by Grace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You might have pushed him into saying something he wasn't ready to say and he's acting the best way he knows how to still be in your life but had to somehow put on the brakes as he seems to not be in a hurry to be "attached" to anyone with a view to "marriage" or "common-law" living so soon. I would stop expecting anything from this person and be happier when and if he comes and treat him like any other person in your life with respect and dignity, until such time as he feels comfortable in asking for more. No guy likes to feel squeezed into any situation with the opposite sex. It often has the opposite effect of the one you expect. No expectations on your part would be the best policy, if you ever want him to pursue you more than he does now.
2007-03-17 19:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too be rude. I think that there is a vulnerability. In your vibe. Or should I say body language. That he has keyed onto. And he's feeding off that. I think he has you pegged in a sense. And trust me. You being down-to -earth isn't your fault. I get the impression. He isn't feeling you. And he's basically saying it. In so many words. If he's acting this way now. Just imagine what he'd be like.... If you were to copulate with him. Adleast you can pick up,on the mixed signals now. And still wake up in the morning. With a little bit of diginity. And self-worth. If you shun him off. As he's doing too you. Then perhaps he'll come around. And treat you with some respect. I don't know why. Yet I've encountered men like this. And once I decide to say **** it. And not show any interest in them. Then it's like he does a whole 160 degree turn. At this point on me like flies to ****. By then my interest is not there. Just let nature take it's course. And some one decent and worthy of you. Will cross your path. If not sooner than later. Take care. And I'm out.
2007-03-18 02:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by andelagdn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I recommend that you just drop the prospect of any guy who sends you weird messages. Internalize his interactions with you to be nothing more than witty banter. Respond to guys that are straight-forward and genuinely interested in you. Dump any that turn out to be asses.
There's no science to dating other than chemistry, but if you waste all your time trying to figure out one guy you will miss all the great opportunities. There are 6 billion people out there and it's almost a 50/50 split. Pick one.
2007-03-18 02:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by krazyzima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be this guy is still confuses about his feelings towards you after the breakup. But after all you have been together sometimes, it is natural that he is concern about you. Sometimes these will lead to a good friendship. If your relationship didn't work out, who knows you two are better off as friends.
2007-03-18 04:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is having the same problem but sadly the guy is uusing her when he is nice to her to show her off to his friends. I dnt kno your situation that well so it would be hard to tell. maybe he is confused about how he feels
2007-03-18 02:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer, press him for reason he's acting this way.
2007-03-18 02:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by Futureman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is acting that way towards you because you are letting him.
2007-03-18 02:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't know what he wants. Push him a little and make him figure out what he wants.
2007-03-18 02:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just ignore him for a while and see. how are you so sure that there is no one else in his life??
2007-03-18 02:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by vsri_0 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not interested.
2007-03-18 02:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by Your Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋