My boyfriend is 22 and I'm 19. I'm an econ major and doing the premed program also, while he is studying to be an electrical engineer. I want to go to the best medical school and become a surgeon one day. We already go to schools in different cities. but somehow we managed to hold on. We see each other every chance we get. But i wonder what would happen after college? I would probably not be as close anymore. I may be so far away from him. I'm very ambitious and so is him. He said that he may move with me to wherever my med school is. Are we just lying to ourselves? Do you think if this will ever work out? I think we love each other. We have been together for more than 3 yrs.
2007-03-17 19:25:57 · 6 answers · asked by Deesa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Awwww. I think you are just scared about the future. It is GOOD that you are not being too optimistic and are being more realistic. Things can happen. But if you really work at this and have faith in the relationship, it will work out.
If it's meant to be, it will be. God has a plan for you.
2007-03-17 19:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinoin is that you do have so much going on, and big changes in your immediate futures. These kings of situations can create a lot of anxiety as you each pursue your personal goals while maintaining your joint goal of a relationship. You are growing more mature by the minute, and you struggle between personal desires and ambitions, and the need to keep your relationship whole and fulfilling. I think your boyfriend's suggestion to move with you when you attend med school could be a really workable solution. Plus, it sounds like he volunteered that, so he should not feel pressured. The way I see it, is that life and love have a way of making things right. If you love one another, and he is willing to move to your med school area, then he is showing initiative in maintaining the relationship as well. Perhaps you are overwhelmed by your new studies and responsibilities, and feel the need for a break from the relationship. Only you know what is in your heart of hearts.
Sherry Smith--Good luck!
2007-03-17 19:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by SherryPie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you two do love each other and you two are still young, i would say wait it out an see what will happen if you two really want to be together it will work itself out. Not saying it will be easy, who said loving someone is always easy, and sometI'mes along the way we will be tested in our love,meaning making hard decision where then our love will be tested. People in college end up being happily married and have wonderful children.What im trying to say is you may have to split up or maybe he can come where you will go all I'm saying is if you two want to be together and really love each other it want matter who's where or with who cause you two will no that this is for your future and this is something you two have to do to better yourselves.Don't give up just yet.
2007-03-17 19:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that is going to move to another state and she has a boyfriend. One day she told me that if their love for each other is strong enough...then they will last forever. Everything happens for a reason so don't worry about the future.
2007-03-17 19:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by DANCER_CHiCK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could, odds are it won't. You two are growing up & unfortunately, bound to grow apart. That's kind of how life works. As I said, it might work out. There's no real way to tell. Love has nothing to do with it. Sometimes people just move on without even realizing it.
2007-03-17 19:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should follow your dreams, as you say you are both still very young and have your whole lives ahead of you. If your love is strong enough and you are meant to be together you will come together again at the right time.
2007-03-17 19:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋