How can you tell when like/love has turned into obessesion?

Question

Say you love someone, but when do you know you've crossed the line into being obessed about your partner?

Could it be when they say they're going out, that they'll be back later but don't tell you where (as in they've just got up and left like that) and you kinda sit there nervous with butterflies in your stomach?

Just a question I was thinking about... when does one cross the line?

This is a general question a friend and I have been pondering... please don't not include person attacks such as stuff like that if I'm thinking like that I ought to be dumped... it's a general question.

Answer 1

I think it's natural to wonder about the other person.

But I think being obsessed is when you continuously call them, wonder where they are / where they're going, not giving them ANY space... all those things way too much.

Sometimes, I feel like I'm obsessed. My bf and I have been together for over 13 months. And sometimes, he doesn't call me back when he says he does, or I haven't heard from him in a day or 2 and I find myself wondering what's going on. But I don't ACT on my impulses to constantly call him and breathe down his neck. I have faith in him. I am secure enough to know that everything is okay and he always has a good reason. I learned that from experience.

Answer 2

I would say that obssession comes when you start trying to regulate your partner's life. For example, when they go out without you, you can a) not care b) worry about their well-being or c) demand answers as to where they have been.

This is a question I've tossed around since my girlfriend and I seem to have an unhealthy dependency on one another. Still, if she says she's going out I suck it up and deal with it. I think it's important to note that I live and Texas and she lives in Pennsylvania -- we're 1500 miles away from each other. Still, when you genuinely start demanding answers when your partner is trying to have a social life then you need to re-evaluate you position in the relationship.

Loving someone involves having them want to be part of the relationship, not controlling their every action.

Answer 3

Unfortunatly love is obsession. Can you really say you love someone and not miss them, not be jelous of their time spent elsewhere besides with you?? Is this love in you head, or love in you heart, cause the kind that comes from within makes you do a lot of crazy stuff.

Answer 4

It is a obsession when you do not give the other person space when you are boyfriend and girlfriend. I think in order to be really in love with a person. you have to have a obsession about them. like feel jealous when some one talks to your boyfriend or girlfriend.and wanna know where they are all the time. who they are with. when your not around. I think obsession is part of being crazy about each other and that's where obsession starts when people start to feel crazy about each other.

Answer 5

It's called 'possession' or 'ownership'. Nothing wrong with it. You have every right to feel this way. Sometimes the end result is 'jealousy' and wondering if he/she is cheating on you. That too is normal as long as you do not become paranoid with the situation.

Just be normal..

Answer 6

If he loved you, he would not be disconsiderate of you. If you live together already, that is. Does he only see you and treat you as a sexual partner only.

Answer 7

n o fairly its even as they go away and also you experience you may flow with them and also you wanna be conscious of the position they are each of the time and in case you stick with them to places or perhaps as all u do do is occupy a even as over them

Answer 8

obsessions when they want you to them self's and don't want you to be around friends ,family, anyone but them,and are very jealous.now its another thing when they just get up leave ,thats just plain being a jerk.

Answer 9

When s/he wants to call up the grocery shop but ends up calling her/him. :D

Answer 10

if you have to ask you probably are. You oight get dumped also.