okay so I have two friends with benefits...one doesn't want a commitment and one, I already dated and it didn't "work out." should I drop them both, or play the field?
2007-03-17 19:13:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Both of them apparently think your a good enough to be an ejaculate receptacle, but not good enough to make a commitment to. Apparently you agree that you are good enough to screw but not good enough to build a life with, because you've let them do it. Make this experience an embarrassing past mistake and don't let it happen again. You should value yourself more highly and demand that any man in your life knows just how valuable your intimacy is.
2007-03-17 19:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion as long as everyone involved understands and agrees honestly that the "benefits" are just benefits and not leading to anything else than go for it. Not having feelings attached to benefits if very difficult for, I would say, most people and you would need to be sure that no one especially yourself isn't really wishing it was more or people could get hurt and friendships lost. Also if at any time you or them even begin to get serious with someone else than the benefits must stop immediately and cant be gone back to whenever there is
a bad day or someone needs "reassurance". Any way I say "Play Ball!!", as long as no ones cheating.
2007-03-18 02:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by xhanyth74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already dated one guy and it didn't work out, why are you screwing him? If anything, you'd leading him on. Drop him. As far as the other guy, if you're ok with being used for sex, keep on sexing him up. It will always be a sex relationship, nothing more so, don't ask for more. If you want something deeper, try not giving up the booty and not asking for a commitment.
Guys are pretty basic. Either you're the relationship girl or the sex girl. Two categories, that's it. Pick which one you wanna be and be happy with it.
2007-03-18 02:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the ex - this can cause problems later on. As for the other...so long as he knows that's all it is, and he's OK with that, then it's probably cool. Be ready for him to form an attachment, however - we guys can only do that for a while before we start hoping...
2007-03-18 02:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your willing to still sleep with guys that did'nt work out and one that has no real intrest in staying with you, then why not keep both of them, and just add a couple more.
2007-03-18 02:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you are comfortable with. If you are benefitting anything from these "friends" then you aren't losing... If you feel regret about it or some sort of shame... then you need to change your game.
2007-03-18 02:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by Alley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop them both. Haven't you heard the expression, "why buy the cow if you can have the milk for free."
2007-03-18 02:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why does everyone have to be serious or have relationships and its always the only goal in life. There is nothing wrong with having friends, enjoying your life and living your life for you and not just a man.
2007-03-18 02:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok so its just a fling nothing to worry about arent realy together as i see it just a freind with benefits every once in a while
2007-03-18 11:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by grizz11952001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the ex at least. Trust me.
2007-03-18 02:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by panic!please 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋