I've been with my bf for more than 3 years now. Even though we say that we love each other sometimes, I don't know what it really means. We talk about marrying, and living together sometimes, and we get excited (especially him). The thing is we are so young. I'm 19 and he is 22. So I get confused sometimes. My friends tell me that if it's meant to be it's meant to be. But I still stress about it sometimes, like i'm unsure if he truly loves me or cares for me. I know I shouldn't feel this way, but i really can't help it sometimes. Am I wrong for doing this? How do you tell if your bf loves you?
2007-03-17 19:05:40 · 8 answers · asked by Deesa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are both ambitious. I want to be a surgeon and he wants to be an engineer. So we barely see each other. the truth is we go to schools that are in different cities. but we managed to be together still. he drives to my school to see me whenever possible. and I come back a lot also.
2007-03-17 19:15:34 · update #1
You are perfectly correct in feeling this way.. Looks like you are a matured person. Both of you are young and when we are young we normaly do things without giving proper thought to the process. A lot of youngsters in this game have hurt themselves.
Give yourself time. Love is a verb.. Just saying "I love you' has no meaning. Love must be put into action. e.g looking after his interests, being with him to motivate his studies/games/career. etc.
It is good to be 'unsure' until you are positively 'sure'.
2007-03-17 19:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is the way most people your age feel when in long relationships. When you are ready for the next step it is natural to begin to doubt things but just take your time. It would be a good idea to move in together before marriage and see if you are compatable there. Good luck. You will never be able to test if someone really loves you, there is never going to be an answer to this, you should feel loved, by the way he does things, is he puting the two of you before himself with his decision making? Is he considerate and dependable? If he tells you positive things and builds up your confidence and supports you, this would be love...if on the other hand he puts you down and is horrible etc, he may be insecure and it wouldnt be love. You will know it when you have it. Dont marry him until you know you really love him because love is the only reason anyone should marry for.
2007-03-18 02:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by gudsport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really know for sure, until time tells you everything. A lot of couples talk about future plans, and some of them don't make it, and some do. It seems like your boyfriend does care about you, and you both have been together for a while now. So let time tell you the answer. Don't stress so much about the future, like you said, you both are pretty young. Live day by day, love each other, and you will see where it goes from there. :]
best of luck.!
2007-03-18 02:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, the fact is that u have been with your bf for 3 years and that alone proves his love for you. He's 22 and he gets excited when he talks about marriage and living together. He obviously wants a future with you and remains committed to you. Don't worry so much.
2007-03-18 02:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel this way after 3 years.... there is something going on.
Something is MAKING you feel this way.
Is it his actions? Does he SAY he loves you.... and then doesn't even ACT like he loves you? Maybe that is what is confusing you.
Actions speak louder than words.
2007-03-18 02:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes been with you for 3 yrs, but why wait so long to live together? are yu religious? i moved out at 18 with my man
2007-03-18 02:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm.........well its really hard for a guy to show affection naturally.....it makes us feel valnurable and "unmanly", so I mean if he even says "I love you" that is SOMETHING! I would guage it on his actions not his words, also......he might just have a hard time showing that he cares-its really harder then it sounds............showing affection really is awkward and uncomfortable at times...its like humbling.
2007-03-18 02:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by Brok_Homz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think after three years it should just be obvious. i mean if you feel insecurity or doubtful then you prolly arent in love. you should feel some sort of connection, and it should be abs. unconditional.
2007-03-18 02:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋