I attend a class that meets in an auditorium with seats like a movie theater. Everyone kind of has their own seat that they sit in. I sit on the end of a row and get their on time to get my seat. However, almost every day, this guy who sits past me on my row comes in...like 15 minutes late...and instead of saying "excuse me" or something like that he says nothing...barges over me. He is very rude, he doesn't even give me a second to move out of his way...I could stand up, move my backpack, etc but instead he just jumps all over me! The other day he even knocked my notebook off the desk! Still said nothing...It would be so much easier if he just waited a second and let me move and maybe said excuse me fairly often! Question is...what is the proper way to conduct yourself in this situation? Should one wait and say excuse me?
2007-03-17 18:57:40 · 18 answers · asked by xsb25 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That makes me sad :( I'm so glad my parents raised me differently. First off it's rude to be late in the first place, so he's already messing up there. Secondly yea, what he should do is wait a second so you can let him by. He shouldn't necessarily say excuse me, but he should definitely say thanks after you let him through...gah what a jerk.
2007-03-17 19:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by David W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the other comments they he may not have learned manners growing up- not his fault.
I don't think it's a good idea to confront him, it may only make things worse, depending on how he will react, and may make concentrating on future class sessions more uncomfortable.
If possible, try saving him a seat at the end of the row, so that it is easier for him to get a seat.
You will feel better knowing that you helped someone out and you won't get your things knocked over.
Yeah, he's late all the time, but maybe for a good reason.
2007-03-17 20:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see him coming stand and move out of his way. Smile and say, "You are welcome." Then be seated. The next time try, "You are excused." Keep smiling. Either try one more time and see if he catches on or after the second time don't notice him and see if he'll still trample you. If he does and if you are female, have a large friend intercept him and say, "I believe you owe the lady an apology." If you are a guy I'm afraid you may have to handle it yourself. Maybe say, "Hey buddy, you may want to try being a little more careful, next time." You could try that instead, if you are female, and you don't care to bring someone else in on it. Just do it in a loud enough voice to embarrass him since he seems to be thick. Anyway, I hope you somehow remedy the situation. Good luck.
2007-03-17 19:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he should say' pardon' or 'excuse me,' but not everyone is courteous. Maybe he thinks he is causing further disruption by speaking and is trying to be courteous. Be sure to act proactively, a gentle-person always acts to increase the comfort of those around him or her. If you sit where he normally does he will not be put in the embarrassing situation where he has to climb over you. If you ever need to move after he's seated, be sure to say excuse me and to wait politely. Show by example what you think respectful behavior is.
2007-03-17 19:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest trading seats? That way you'll be rid of the whole thing, he won't have to get past you at all. Even if you do somehow manage to get him to say 'excuse me', you'll still have to get up every day... if you change seats with him, he can come in at his own time and regardless of whether he says sorry or not it'll be far less disturbing.
2007-03-17 22:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One should wait and say excuse me. This guy seems like a jerk. Just blow him off and tell him in his face that what he is doing is rude. Try to make sure that a couple of people around you hear it.
That might get through to his brain...if he has one that is.
PS: I am also a guy so, i am not insulting guys here OK. I am insulting a rude person. I would say the same thing if he was a girl.
2007-03-17 19:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by The Great One 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he should say excuse me; however, I doubt if he is interested in hearing that.
I understand your frustration, but I don't think trying to teach this guy a lesson is worth your time and further aggravation. Just sit in another seat (one far away from him), and focus on your purpose of being there -- to learn.
Good luck with your studies.
2007-03-17 19:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Winnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he tries to barge through say, "Oh, did you need to get through?" In a go to hell tone of voice. But I can bet that if he hasn't learned his manners by now, he never will. If it really gets to you, try to get a different seat or say something to the teacher about this guy's constant tardiness.
2007-03-17 19:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by nd721 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try crossing your legs and firmly press the top one against the back of the seat in front of you so he can't get by without saying something?
A lovely passive-aggressive move that might get your point across :)
2007-03-17 20:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That jackass needs to have some manners BEAT into him!!
He is grossly rude, obnoxious, and inconsiderate! IF he
survives the BEATING, his sorry a** should be flunked out of
EVERY class until he can prove that he's cured of this mean,
aberrant behavior. There's simply NO EXCUSE for this!!
2007-03-17 19:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by SlownEasy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋