I get this weird feeling everytime my bf goes out with his friends. maybe it's jealousy, I don't know. Am I right for feeling this way? I just feel like I should be there too you know? He just went to see a movie with his friends, and we were suppose to see it. Should I get angry at him?
2007-03-17 18:55:31 · 11 answers · asked by Deesa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what is this weird feeling that u feel? sometimes a guy need his guys time... u should let him go out
2007-03-17 19:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a few tips for ya. First of all, your feelings aren't wrong. You are completely allowed to feel anyway you want to about any thing at any time. They are your feelings and yours alone and no one has the right to tell you that they are incorrect. Furthermore, your feelings of jealousy are natural. What's important is the behaviors you exhibit due to those feelings of jealousy (remember the recent astronaut situation?).
I have noticed that women tend to feel jealous because they are either insecure about the relationship or themselves. If you are feeling this way, the best thing you can do is talk to him about it. Tell him you felt a little disappointed when he did not keep his commitment to you about the movie. It may seem trivial to him, but it was important to you right? If you mean anything to him, he will respect your feelings and appreciate that the courage it took to talk about it and be vulnerable with him. If he does not respect your feelings, then its time to move on, and date a more mature man.
Don't forget that men need time to hang out with their friends, and so do you. Balance is key here. The more you support him with this, the more he's likely to reciprocate.
2007-03-18 02:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by lyricsop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get angry at him, for having a night out with his friends. You are dating, yes, but that doesn't mean he has to bring you everywhere with him.
You should do things together, but both of you should have times where you go out with friends, without each other. This is such thing as spending TOO much time together. Don't be clingy, it'll work against you in the end.
They picked a movie you wanted to see with him, big deal. There will be plenty more movies coming out, that you'll want to see with him, and that you'll be able to do.
2007-03-18 02:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always start a conversation with "I", to avoid an argument.
For example: " I felt left out when you went to the movie that we were going to see together." Finish with what you'd like to see in the future. "I don't mind you seeing your friends, but it hurts when you you break our dates, I don't know where I stand when that happens."
The important thing is to not lose your cool. You want to be with him, not argue all evening or drive him away.
2007-03-18 02:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a little jealousy is normal but yes, he giving you some reason to feel that way. and of course you should be angry. if you agreed to do something together and he does it with somebody else that wrong.
2007-03-18 02:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe he is very inconsiderate.....he is putting his friends infront of you ....how can you allow this ...? are you sure he is YOUR boyfriend or the other woman he goes out with to the movies which he says is his friends...? you need to be more firm with him & do NOT allow him to be that free ....be on him like a leech NEVER let your guard down....always be the insecure person....this will help to bring the relationship what it should be....
2007-03-18 02:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know how you feel.
its natural to get angry or worried but just tell him that you love him and that you do worry about him going. if he loves you, he'll tell you to not worry, give you some hugs, and tell you that nothing'll get between you two.
but seriously, its only natural to feel like this, i wish the girl i liked would feel this way about me!
2007-03-18 02:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ratchet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here's how it goes usually....... girls have there girls nights out, and so do the guys. and another thing how long have u been seeing this guy........and are his friends possesive. good luck, have your girls keep an eye on him. just 2 make sure he isn't cheating.
2007-03-18 02:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think getting angry would achieve anything i would just try to spend more time with hi if i were u
2007-03-18 01:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that weird feeling is called Woman's intuition and you should learn to trust it! It will seldom fail you. If your gut tells you something just isn't right...it probably isn't!
2007-03-18 02:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋