He shows up at my door unannounced and keeps standing there knocking until I let him in. I live alone. I don't want people to see a guy standing outside knocking at my door constantly. I had initially liked him & we were clicking as friends for a very short time, b4 I came to know he was engaged to be married. He mentioned I was his fantasy. Then he got married, and now he just shows up at my door, wanting to come in and be close to me. I have tried telling him constantly how I dont want us to meet anymore, but he simply does it again. He hasn't tried anything drastic & neither would I allow him, but I simply hate this situation, and for him to want to cheat on his wife, and I cannot allow it! How should I stop him once & for all? Help me. :( I am really afraid of him now. I know I am being stupid for even opening the door. I am being good to him out of politeness. Do I need to get mean?
2007-03-17 18:42:21 · 18 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, If he is married now and still comes by your home then he is still out the with the dogs in heat. He wants you, but only because you want give in. And who knows how many other girls he is trying this with. If you can, don't let him in anymore, and just stop all contact with him. If he persist in seeing you, tell your family, friends and have someone be with you and tell him just to leave you alone. The last straw would be to get the police involved. I hope it does not go this far. I hope this helps you.
2007-03-17 18:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by alone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not have done anything drastic but it's high time that you should. It's time for you to get the authorities involved and start pressing charges. You've let this go on to the point where now you're afraid? Forget the politeness and call the cops. Let the whole world, including his wife, know what he has been up to. He's breaking the law and charging him with harassment and stalking is not being mean. It's become necessary and detrimental to your own safety and well being. This guy is an obsessive crazy kook and needs to be stopped. So the next time he is at your door don't open it or let him in. Have him wait outside while you get on the phone and summon the police. The time for talking is long over with. He just can't get it through his thick skull so you need to take the necessary steps to show him he needs to leave you alone.
2007-03-17 19:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simply tape a note to your door that is completely open for him to read when he comes to your door. on the note write, that you have enjoyed being his friend but that it is more than obvious that it can not be maintained at that level and the next time he knocks instead of answering the door you will be calling his wife to come and pick him up. or you could just let him come over and while he is there go in the other room and call his wife and ask her to come and pick him up. either way, you are still being a lady and your problem will be permanantly solved.
2007-03-17 19:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do more than that for your own safety. This guy is showing symptoms of a stalker. Don't answer the door for him let alone allow him to come in. Notify law enforcement of what he has said to you about being his fantasy and that you have told him time and again to leave you alone and he is still bothering you. If law enforcement cannot help, ask your family or other friends to assist you. This guy is borderline crazy!!!
2007-03-17 18:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to get mean but you definitely need to get firm! PLEASE DO NOT OPEN YOUR DOOR ANYMORE! Every time you open that door for him he thinks it's okay to stop by any time he wants. So if he's standing at your door knocking forever - who cares! Let the neighbors see him. If it's an annoyance, perhaps they'll call the police and I bet he won't come knocking anymore.
Rember, stop letting him in - as long as you keep doing that he will keep coming back. Just don't answer the door - simple.
2007-03-17 18:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
call the cops or tell his wife if u keep opening the door one day ,it will lead to the something u might not want
2007-03-17 18:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police if he doesn't leave. That should make him leave u alone. Tell his wife 2, so she can take care of it.
2007-03-17 18:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just keep away from this guy he seems dangerous.if you keep silent he will take advantage of you or may be hurt you so why don't you ask one of your friends to just come in and stay with you for a day tell him you don't want to see him again.i think this guy is mad and want to use you for your innocence take care . i feel you should change you place were you stay .just shift elsewhere and don't contact him or give him your address
2007-03-17 18:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by honey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absoulutely. if you like you can get a restraining order on him. and if he tries anything funny you can sue him for everypenny he has and possibly send him to jail. and if there is a need for drastic measures get yourself a pistol or a shotgun. if he comes i your house i believe that in most states you can shoot him on the spot.
2007-03-17 18:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once they get some dents from you attempting to open the door, they receives the hint. are you able to park the motorcar, by ability of backing into the driveway, so as that your drivers door is on the different area.
2016-12-02 04:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋