..that they are not okay, sad, depressed, etc, when you ask them, "How was your day?/How are you?" Or when they just announce it unexpectedly.
2007-03-17 18:31:17 · 27 answers · asked by Classy Gal 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
im sorry hope it get better
2007-03-17 18:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by 1 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have any time at all, or can make the time, say you're sorry and offer to listen to them. If you have an appointment you can't put aside, then offer to meet them at another time. Many people just want to tell someone and lending an ear can be a great help.
2007-03-18 05:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, "I am so sorry to hear that. Is there anything I can do to help?" But only say that if you intend on following through if they do ask and you commit to helping in whatever way they have requested. If I don't know them well enough to actually "help" them out, I would say something like, "I'm sorry to hear that. I hope your day gets better and you take care, ok?"
2007-03-18 01:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to them a little bit about it and try to see why there feeling sad or down and if they seem really bad get them help so they don't hurt them self or anyone else but all you can really do is be there and be there friend and just listen to them. sometimes that all it takes Good luck.
2007-03-18 01:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by randrnorman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure it's what you say as it is that you listen. The person is obviously upset enough to let you know that he/she is not okay. A few minutes of listening can do more than an unsimpathetic "It'll be okay."
2007-03-18 01:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you don't really care how they're doing - you were just mouthing a universal platitude. 'how are ya?' you say cheerfully, and they respond 'oh. horrible. everything's awful. actually I'm thinking of slicing my wrists open as we speak...'
so are they being rude by responding to your innocent question as if it was more personal than it was obviously meant? or are you now obliged to follow through and actually have to care about their sorry self?
either way the correct response is to look sad. say oh, i'm sorry (there you go with the insincere platitudes again) quickly think of an excuse, and leave.
2007-03-18 01:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by hot.turkey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask them if they'd like to talk about their problem. Just be a listener. They don't expect you to solve their dilemma, but it's always nice to have someone who listens.
2007-03-18 01:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask them if they want to talk about it. most people will just say "i'm fine", even if they are not, so saying that they are not fine is a big cry for help. ask what you can do to help them.
2007-03-18 02:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Minerva 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look... i am your friend... and even i feel depressed somedays... but i try to overcome it not by hiding it inside me but by sharing it with someone close.... if you want you can share it with me... i am here for you...maybe i can relief you a bit... after all thats what friends are for....
i would like to tell you one more thing that the more you hide your sadness, the more it reflects....
2007-03-18 01:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by onlyapoorva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. What's bothering you?
This line tends to work with most people. If they're willing to say that they feel bad, they probably want someone to talk to.
2007-03-18 01:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by Dalarus 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well most people would just like someone to listen to them. Try to get them to talk about their problem before it turns bad.
2007-03-18 01:33:37 · answer #11 · answered by Lokore H 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋