my cat peed on my bed.?

Question

I have been homebound for the last 8 months, during this time i adopted a kitten. We were literally inseperable, if i went somewhere, she would come. I finally found employment, and went to work for a couple of hours. When i got home, i noticed she had peed on my side of the bed. Also the moment we got her, she was instantly terrified of my fiance, she cowars at the sight and sound of him, even though he is the gentalist of souls. What do you think the problem is? And what can i do?

Answer 1

She peed on your bed becuase she was stressed or anxiety ridden becuase of your sudden absence.

You have a naturally timid kitty. To help get over his anxiety over your leaving for work, "acclimatize" him to short periods of your absence. You can start tommorrow, since it is Sunday. Leave her in your bedroom with her food bowl, water and kity litter. Talk to her before you leave and use a "signal" word that you can use everytime she has to be left by herself for a few hours. I use the word "Makati" for my cats (I say, "mama go to Makati little little while - Makati." Then I leave the room and close the door). Go out of the house and stay out for about an hour. Come back but come back bearing gifts for kitty - FOOD! This way she'll think you just went hunting. Give her some food the moment you enter your room. A little while later, leave her again for another hour, saying the signal word. Come back with food for her. By tomoroow, hopefully your absence will not be too frightening anymore becuase hopefully she'll just think that you've gone hunting for food to bring back to her. Oh, don't leave with the whole house open to her - contrary to what we think, to timid cats, a big space to explore when they are all alone is intimidating. Keep her in just one room with all her comfort things.

As for her fear of your finacee, she'll get over that. Just tell your fiancee to simply IGNORE her when he is in the same room as the cat. Most timid cats will assess a person that ignores them as "safe" - funny, I know but you eed to look at these things from a cat's point of view. A person who calls, walks towards and attempts to touch a timid cat is seen by that cat as "possible predator."

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

I just answered a similar question on www.petsweekly.com/fauxpaws. Check it out or here's the text from that question: (writen from the purrspective of a cat!) Sounds like your kitty is a little threatened by your fiance coming over all the time - try spending more time with her while your fiance is there. Also - pick up some ComfortZone, Ssscat, and Feliway - all will help tremendously. Change is hard on cats, but she will adjust. Below is the answer on PetsWeekly.com

I remember when my mom had to deal with 15 male cats and 3 female cats at one time. All of us were spraying, because really, that's what we do... You've heard the expression "P**sing contest"? Well, that is pretty much what was going on. Cat urine carries a chemical known as "uretic crystals" and marking territory with these crystals helps us remember whose turn it is to "own" something. We sort of "timeshare" our belongings, such as scratch posts, and this allows us to let the other cats know whose turn it is. Even the females do this, so don't think it's just the guys! (We generally get the blame because people think that females don't spray, but they are not as prissy as everyone thinks they are!)

Obviously this is very traumatic for humans who, rumor has it, tend to avoid "urine marking". As far as identifying the culprit, there are a number of ways you can do this. But, why? When one stops spraying another will probably start, so eliminate the problem altogether. If you really feel the need to find out if only one cat is doing it, write back and we'll tell you ways that can be done. But, for now, let's concentrate on stopping the problem.

The first thing you need to do is eliminate any health problems. I say that because I'm legally obligated by the Coalition of Cat Attorneys to say so. I really think that they are doing it because they can. But, it's a good thing to take all of your kitties in for their annual anyway. Once the health problems are eliminated, you can begin the solving the real problem, which is "time sharing" and "attitude".

The first thing to do is block access to the object they spray the most. This can be done in several ways. The best way is through a little product known as Ssscat, which I personally despise. It's motion activated, highly effective, and non-invasive. You can read a review that my mom did on the product here.

But before you block access, you need to eliminate any trace of cats being in that spot. This can be done with a product known as UrineOff, and you can read about it here. It's the only product on the market that actually dissolves the uretic crystal. It even penetrates wood, concrete and grout, but is gentle enough for clothes and materials.

When you've finished spraying that area down (and that's ALL you have to do), purchase the next little item known as Feliway. Spray a bit directly on the area that was being sprayed, and then plug in the Comfort Zone Diffuser. This will help calm the cats down and make them forget about territorial disputes or marking areas, really, it will make them forget about anything but relaxing and getting along happily.

Hope that helps!
Purrs,

Answer 3

Your cat wants to claim her territory.
Your bed is her's, and she peed on it to show that.

Clean all your beddings. If possible, get rid of the cat's smell by replacing new ones. Next time if you catch her on the act, forfeit her right on the bed, and close the door. Let her sleep outside the bedroom..... until she won't pee on your bed again.

I don't know what will please your cat the most. But your fiancee must find out. This is a life-time relationship. Befriend your cat is as important as befriending your mom and dad. :)

Answer 4

This could be a behavioral problem, but it could also be a MEDICAL problem. Cats commonly urinate in inappropriate places when they have urinary tract infections. The owner's bed seems to be a favorite place for this display and sometimes they will even do it right in front of you.

It shouldn't be too expensive to get her checked out and on some antibiotics if she does have a UTI. Please get her in to a vet as soon as you're able to.

Answer 5

The peeing on your bed was because she was mad at you for leaving and as far as the being terrified of your fiance it could of had a bad experience with a male figure before you adopted it and it might or might not get over it.

Answer 6

if she peed on your bed shut the door or use citrus on the sheets cats hate that smell. Get her to spend more time with your partner so she can get used to him.

Answer 7

You culd try closing your bedroom door when you leave and have your fiance around her more. have the two of them in a room with nothing to hide behind/under with the door closed

Answer 8

is it a male ,it means you and the bed now belong to the cat
get it fixed
or plant a tree ,using the cat as compost

your fiancee may be a ghost ,cats are terrified of ghosts

or a witch

is the cat black you dont mention that .
get a new cat that has less mental problems
before it affects your own mentality.

hope this helps