this guy has feelings for me and i have them for him too, but he isan't over his ex gf yet. He told me that he won't consider dating me if his heart isan't totally with me. I don't know if i made a good decision to wait for him..
2007-03-17 18:22:21 · 8 answers · asked by claraphone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't wait for him... but don't write him off either. You can keep in casual contact but don't put your life on hold for someone who may or may not ever be totally 'with you'. Let his 'rebound person' be someone else :)
2007-03-17 18:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by endorable 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very honest to me. So its certainly worth while waiting for a guy like that. But, dont put all your eggs in one basket. I know what I mean.
I m saying this coz sometimes he may be feeling that there is a slight chance of getting back together with his ex. So in case they get together again you will be utterly dissapointed. So dont let that happen. Just have some other interests also.
It was the same for me. After I broke up with my first love, for a long time had a feeling that she would call me and that we will be able to get back together again. So I didnt go out with other girls as I was uncertain. But she never called. So with the time I totally gave up. I think he also must be in a similar situation. So let the time solve your issue. Just have patience!!!!
All the very best to you!!!!
2007-03-17 18:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by banju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made a good decision to wait for him. He did not want to date you until he was totally free from his previous relationship. That means he would not use you just to fill the emptyness the other might have left. It sounds that when he dates you, he will do it completely (physically and metally). That is smart of him, and you might be a very lucky girl. Oh, but waiting for him does not /should not mean you cann't hang out with your friends. Get to know other people too; it's okay. If he's for you and like you enough, he will come to you when ready.
2007-03-17 18:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by BeckhamGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I have sort of mixed feelings on this one. My brother was in love with this girl and she said that she couldn't date him because she wasn't over the last guy but she would let him know when she was and then within a week he found out that she was with someone else. But on the other hand who wants to be with a guy who is still thinking of someone else? If you know he is into you and you believe that he really wants to be with you, don't worry about it, break ups are hard and do take a little time, give him his space, but not too much space, talk to him like a friend and be a friend for him, don't try to touch him in anyway that his buddies wouldn't. If you don't think he's all that into you, take a look around you for someone else, because again who wants to be with someone who isn't totally into them?.
Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.
2007-03-17 18:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that he was honest with you about his feelings. Sometimes people do need time after losing someone. Being his friend can have its advantages as well. Then if the feelings are there when the time is right, go for it. But if you meet someone in the meantime who wants to go out, go out with them. You wouldn't want to let the right one get away because you are waiting for the wrong one.
2007-03-17 18:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by a17blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one that can make that choice is you, but I think maybe you will be wasting your time waiting. he was being honest with you. move on.
2007-03-17 18:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to move on, he still has feeling for his ex
and that not good. while you waiting on him to get it together
you could have found your soul mate...
2007-03-17 18:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for him,if he is for you sure to come .
2007-03-17 18:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋