How long should you be engaged before you get married?

Answer 1

There is no set time limit on engagement. Some people get married almost immediately after wards and some wait years. (My best friend was engaged for five years before he got married. I was engaged for a year.) It is up to the couple to decide what their goals are and when they want to set the date. It is not uncommon for people in college to get engaged and then wait until after graduation, when they both have jobs, to set a date.

Answer 2

I think about a year is a good amount of time. I have been engaged three times. The first was lasted about 3 months, and I just couldn't deal with him anymore. He thought that since the ring was kinda on my finger he owned me. The second time, was a matter of days. That marriage ended after 8 weeks when he decided that he really wasn't ready to be married again. My last engagement lasted about 18 months. That gave us plenty of time to work out living arrangements, wedding plans, etc., next month will be 7 years!

Answer 3

I think it varies upon the couple it depends if you want a big lavish wedding that may take years to plan or something small.
Myself it was around 9 months engaged Christmas Day got married the following Oct. small wedding and reception about 60 people. We were only dating for 6 months when I proposed love at first sight. It's been almost 9 years now.

Answer 4

I was engaged for 22 months and it was perfect....I needed a full year for the wedding planning and the rest of the time to get used to DH's quirks. :) We decided on a long engagement because, if you think about it, you never hear of couples saying that they regretted a long engagement. On the other hand, I've heard (and known) couples who regretted not being engaged long enough! Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I think at least 9 to 12 months is good. Anyways you'll need that much time if you are planning on having the traditional wedding. Weddings take a while to plan. I was engaged for about 13 months and I thought that was perfect!!

Answer 6

You should know the person for at least 2 years. How long the engagement lasts doesn't matter.

Answer 7

Was engaged 27 months. Got engaged after 18 months. :-) Together before marriage 45 months (Just shy of 4 years).

Answer 8

I was engaged for about a year and a half to someone I never married. had the wedding about half-planned.

My husband and I started talking about getting married on Thankgiving, started planning the wedding in December, got officially engaged in March, and married in August.

Answer 9

There is no set time. Once you decide to be married there is no real reason to wait except to get all your ducks in a row as far as living arrangements etc... as well as planning the wedding! Personally I think people make far too much of a fuss over the wedding itself... if it takes you a year to organize a one day event then it's blown way out of proportion!

I'd say 3 to 6 months should be plenty long enough, unless there is a particular reason to wait, such as finishing college or military service.

Answer 10

I guess the answer to that question is, depends on how long it takes to resolve all the little issues. Basically one has to solve issues like, can we live with one another without biting each others heads off? Is sex with one another great? Do we have a good jobs? Are we educated? Do i want to go back to school? Whats our financial situation? Do we want a family?
Once these basic questions are solved completely, then and only then will a marriage work. So i guess finding answers to these questions should be considered during the engagement process, and the time it takes to resolve them varies amongst each individual........so i say a week to 5 years.