I have a story to tell, I am a 19 year old male who unfortunately never was really into the dating scene in high school and I haven't had much luck at all. The problem is I tend to have been very pre-occupied and busy with other things. I've had tons of trouble trying to find somebody to be with, because either they are taken or they lack the same interests as me. I am going through a very nervous time because I would like to lose my virginity as I must admit I am extremely worried about ending up as a 40-year-old virgin. I know it sounds corny but I just really do not want this to happen to me. It's very difficult. I need some advice because I have also wondered if I have a sexual attraction to males as well as females because I have felt that way and I personally do not know what to do. I could really use some advice here.
2007-03-17 18:07:48 · 11 answers · asked by Jack C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't stress about it. I was a virgin until about a week before my 21st birthday. It hasn't hurt me. As for being interested in guys - many men go through a phase like that at your age (although most won't admit it!), and it doesn't mean that you're bi or gay. It's just your mind being curious about all the possibilities in life, while your sexual orientation is still developing.
If you really want to find someone who shares your interests, try match.com - I met my wife there. That way, you can find someone who is single, actively looking, and compare your likes, dislikes and interests before taking the plunge. I've seen people on that site from late teens to mid 60s, so there's plenty to choose from.
Don't worry so much, it'll happen when it's supposed to happen. Trying to force it will only mess up your chances. Good luck!
2007-03-17 18:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story sounds very familiar with mine. I graduated high school a virgin (went to a small school, shy, busy with sports, etc..) and never had a gf for my first 18 years. Once I graduated, I found things were different, and I decided to have a more confident attitude about things. I ended up getting laid for the 1st time at 19 by a girl that was actually still in my old high school. All you have to do is build up confidence....if you get shot down 9 times out of 10, at least you had that 1. Or, if all else fails, go find a hooker, lol
2007-03-17 18:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by jh361 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, your first time isn't that big of a deal. It sucks for most people anyway, so just get it over with. Most females don't even climax on their first try. As far as your being confused about your sexual orientation- Sexuality isn't a cut and dry thing. I'm sure you're not the only teenage guy having the same feelings. You're young, you'll figure it out.
2007-03-17 19:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by Nik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be worried about losing your virginity... it's not a curse that you need to be rid of as soon as possible. I met my bf when he was 19 and I made him wait almost two years before we had sex. We were both virgins at the time, he was 21 and I was 20. It's not about WHEN you have sex... it's about who it's with. There's no rush... the right person is out there somewhere. Just keep looking. :)
2007-03-17 18:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry I heavily doubt that you would end up like the 40 yr. old virgin, just give this some more time, finding the "right person" (one who have the same interests and as you and etc) takes time. Why not make your first time with someone you truly care about!! It'll probably happen sooner than you truly expect!
2007-03-17 18:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, don't rush it. It will happen eventually, some girl or guy will come along and knock your socks off, so just bide your time and be a little more sociable.
My wife thought I was evil in high school so she was afraid to talk to me. We met at a dance and struck up a conversation and the rest is history.
2007-03-17 18:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush around looking for it. When u least expect it ...it will happen. Plus once u start its ging to occupy A LOT of your time. Your better off not knowing what ur missing for now, do what you want to do. THe right person will come along then it will be awesome and you'll be glad u waited for her.
2007-03-17 18:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by barbiebabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 19.....what is your huge rush to lose your virginity? I'm 24 and I'm still a virgin (I plan on saving it for marriage). Don't rush it, who cares how old you are when you lose it, as long as it's with someone you really love. You shouldnt have sex just so you can say you've done it. you'll regret that move later on. Please just be patient, dont rush into losing it, and don't worry about age. Age has nothing to do with it.
2007-03-17 18:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by Dani 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you don't want to rush your first time, find someone you connect to...i mean really get into dating. if you like both sides of the fence that is fine...but you have to test the waters...don't just jump in...there are way to many things that can go wrong if it's rushed
2007-03-17 18:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by TPete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bi-sexual, and dont worry the right girl/guy will come around, cont be so worried about getting some unless your like 39 and a half
2007-03-17 18:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋