I recently had a chance to spend some time with my 85 year old grandma who is very religious. Well she has a lady living with her, around 40, who is basically putting crap in her head, such as subtle hints like "my son needs 120K to attend Berkley" and that she hears the lord talking to her through her dreams telling her to marry a 60 year old minister who recently became a widower. Ok this lady is a self proclaimed Prophet, who actually left her husband and children in the past because god told her to. Its pretty obvious that shes taking advantage, and I will soon leave my grandmas house, but I worry that this crazy will take advantage of her. How can I tell her to leave my grandma alone and move on in a nice way (or mean) that will not lead to her trying to tell my Grandma whats up. Sometimes I think my grandma believes her, but you know how sometimes old people can be gullible.
2007-03-17 17:55:48 · 11 answers · asked by Joe Bob Charlie, Joe Bob Chopper 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Right now there are all these men coming up and talking to her, like shes gods best creation... I mean shes crazier then a Shizzle House RAT!
2007-03-17 17:57:16 · update #1
Somebody needs to get her out of that house. I don't believe God told her to leave her family. A private investigator might be a good idea and some help from the rest of the family.
2007-03-17 18:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by lucy02 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh, dear, get some back up, and talk to Granny, she may not realize how common this is, or even if she is being taken advantage of.
Or, she may want this woman gone, but is afraid. Help Granny now, before Granny's possessions are all gone, and she is in the street, with just the clothes on her back
Can you take Granny away out of the house, to talk to her? Start small: "Gran, how do you feel about this woman? Do you want her around? Then tell you your suspicions, and be sure to start that part of the conversation with, "Gran you can do whatever you want with your money, buy a cat and will it to the cat. But, I want to make sure you are making the decisions, not someone else. And that you are not being coerced." If you can't get a straight answer, try, "Gran, does this person pay you rent, do you have an agreement for her to stay with you?" You will need to know this, because legally, if there is an agreement, if you throw the woman out, you could have legal problems from her. And to the woman, [after Gran says no,I want her gone] say: "Show me the lease." If crazy woman can't show you a document, Bye Bye to her. then do what you have to do..
One thing you do not want to do. As far as you are concerned Gran is not forgetful, senile, or confused When someone, anyone asks if gran is mentally not all there, No, she is alert, oriented, and sharp as a tack. Even if she is not. The crazy woman might use a detail like that to lay claim to things, like the house, and say that Gran made the agreement, in writing, Gran has just has forgotten where her copy is. Got a lawyer acquaintance? Now is the time to call in a favor.
Poor Gran, it is horrible to get old!
2007-03-18 10:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 months ago, in a prior question of yours, your Grandma was 82 and you were looking for a trust fund because she is rich - things just don't compute. Just like in earlier questions, you are a struggling student living w/ your parents at the same time you are looking to install Japanese doors in your own home. How can we be certain the "crazy" one is the one sharing a home w/ Grandma?
2007-03-21 17:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work with your grandma to find a different caregiver. Tell the one that's there that you are calling adult protective services, and she'd better get out TODAY! Then follow up with a restraining order. That should fix HER wagon!
2007-03-18 21:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by holey moley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say proper etiquette would be the following:
does this woman have a lease with your grandmother?
if not, go to her room, pack her things, set them on the curb and call a taxi and a policeman.
tell them you arrived to find this woman taking advantage of your elderly grandmother and she doesn't belong in the home.
i am sure your grandmother will not fight you.
quite frankly, she might be relieved that someone in the family stepped up to help her 85 year old bones.
good luck.
2007-03-18 01:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this woman is a gold digger,tell your parents,let them get state power of attorney.which means they look after your grandmas finances.even if gran says give these people money if your parents have power of attorney,they do not have to.this is vital for your gran and parents(power of attorney is a legal document in australia)it may be called something else where your from.your gran also has to sign the document,go to it and good luck.
2007-03-18 01:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by fatdadslim 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Git her out of the house and get a restraining order agianst her........she will drain you grandmother dry....
2007-03-18 01:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by kows4sale 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to call the other woman names?
2007-03-18 14:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
god wants you to have a fam not make one then leave it.. sounds to me like she's a bonafide psycho... you need to get your grams out ASAP..
2007-03-18 01:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by LION 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get her out of that house.nothing good can come of this
2007-03-18 01:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋