so they divored a yaer ago and now my life if crashing. the only guy i want, wants me but i cant date him cuz my friend likes him. and that leaves me to decide who and i dont like choosing. and now my grandma that i actaully really want to see my kids is gonna die in 3 months well less. and now i cant help but try to be loved. what do i do
2007-03-17 17:47:17 · 6 answers · asked by Roses dont always mean love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you definitely need stability right now. And with divorced parents, a dying grandmother, and a guy you feel you can't date, there's not a lot of stability. When your world is crashing like this, you need someone there for you, otherwise you won't make it out.
First, if I were you, I'd take stock of what is most important to me. What is that for you? Your kids? I'd spend a lot of time with them. What else is important? Are you in school? Whatever else is important to you, stay close to it. But don't get stressed out. It's a hard balance, but you have to find it or you'll go crazy.
Next, if I were in your situation, I would reach out to my friends. Or somebody! Someone you can talk to and rant to. Someone that will physically be there for you. Is there anyone you can depend on for that?
Lastly, I would spend time with my grandmother if she were dying. Or maybe I wouldn't...because it would be so painful. But maybe a little time, so you can feel you had a proper good bye. It doesn't have to be sad and a weighty moment! It can be light-hearted and joyful...
Well, I hope this all wasn't too vague and lame. I really feel for you, girl. I wish I could do more.
2007-03-17 17:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by newjerseynets_5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow Sweety, you got to change the way you think. Feeling defeated has a way of flowing thru other parts of your life. Be positive.
1. Life will get easier. Time heals all wounds.
2. Boys come and go. You'll meet someone else. Give it time. It's good that you respect your friend and will not date that guy. Wish there were more people like you out here. You're a great friend.
3. Doctors do not control whether someone lives or dies, GOD does. Say a prayer for your grandma. I hope she pulls through. Sounds like you really need her right now.
4. There will always be situations that test you, your strength and your integrity. Just know God doesnt give you more than u can bare. Stay srong and Good Luck to You!
2007-03-18 01:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you need to either go see or call your grandmother and talk to her, there is nothing like the pain you experience when you don't get to say goodbye because you thought you still had time to say it. If she is in good mental health, you could even talk to her about your parents, most older people I know love to listen to anything, talk it through, even if it's to yourself. Then you need to take a step back and look at your situation with this guy, your friend likes him, ok talk to her about him, ask her outright, say hey you know Jim, how much would you really care if I dated him? I kind of have a thing for him too. If your friend says or seems like she would be really hurt, don't move on the guy, as we get older good friends become harder to find, losing a friendship isn't worth any man, and you will need her to talk to about your parents divorce and your grandmothers illness and eventual death.
So 1. call your grandmother 2. talk to your friend 3. once you get all of these things get figured out, there will be less weight on your shoulders to begin to understand your parents divorce. feel free to message me if you have specific questions or just need to talk
2007-03-18 01:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your grandma see the kids take time off for that i meen my grandpa did not even get to see 5 of his youngest grand children before he passed but one is fallowing his footprints he is in the army now but about the guy friends are more important if the guy is like mr perfect then try it but other then that i think friends are more important
2007-03-18 00:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by Black Knight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you need to understand your, parents, there must be a logical explanation for their broke up, but if you love the guy you just mentioned do it, date him, don't listen to others, maybe he is the answer to all of your problems or he can help you, keep cool, or maybe have a plan to make your parents be together again or be gentle to each other at least.
2007-03-18 00:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by igel manalo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really sad **tears**
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just stick in there
2007-03-18 00:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Cameron W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋