Ever since I got dumped I realised that he was not worth it, he does not deserve me in the first place. I have made no contact with him, only he made contact which some I ignored, I booked a trip to go to europe for 4 weeks, I am planning to move in with my best girlfriend and I have been started to go out and mingle with new people. I feel like I'm doing the right thing, but I can't stop thinking about my ex, he broke my heart, I tried to get some answers, he says that hes unhappy and doesn't love me anymore 2 months after he dumped me (which meant he dumped me unexpectantly and ran away with no reason) but he doesn't know why. I gave up finding the truth because I wanted to be happy again and live my life, but he's constantly in my mind and I can't get rid of it. I still love him, but I haven't done any extreme measures in getting him back like calling him or stalking him, because I know I am too good to be like that. What should I do?
2007-03-17 17:40:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy sound like he is emotionally abusing you. Run now and get counselling to help you move through this. These men often leave the woman with the baggage. Counselling will put it into perspective and help you to see it is him that owns the baggage, you were just carrying it for him. Time to give him his baggage, you don't need it.
2007-03-17 17:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by Dianne S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when the space shuttle blew up in 1986. It happened so suddenly that the computer didn't realize what happened. The animated voice just continued on, committed to what was expected of it. So when you say how much you still love him after he jumped out of the relationship .I can understand your heart was in drive and didn't expect that
But the fact is there was a time when he made up his mind to leave you. Yet he didn't love you enough to give off a hint. selfishly thinking. Sometimes we can be so hurt that we'll actually entertain thoughts of running back for comfort to the same person who ripped us in the first place.
A little harsh >>but...depression is when one think of what someone did to poor ole me. Sorrow for self. He did you wrong no doubt. What should you do? Have you ever lived by yourself depending on no one? Move forward find out if you are allowing men to be your broken half.. Seek wholeness and you will never set yourself up to be revealed as broken.. Ask yourself why did he think of leaving without sitting down with you! Anyways I pray the best for you. Love yourself, hangout with people who will tell you truths even if it hurts. Grow strong don't go looking for the comfort of anyone but God. Go help somebody. Now if you find yourself indulging in drugs or drink that is a sign that you rely on substances to take you away from present pain.
2007-03-17 19:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Dont Have A Grand Son With A Dog Collar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After what he had done to you then that meant he doesn't love you anymore... Why would you love someone that doesn't love you anymore? That's not real love just move on with your life and enjoy it =) You know that you can't turn back time but you can just get it going. So you can't do anything about it, I bet there are much better guys out there? Why only him? Trust me, believe in yourself and say that you can go on. Nobody's going to be perfect and they are really sorry but just find the right one not the perfect one. Good Luck
Kevin
2007-03-17 17:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a line from the play "And a Nightingale Sang" that inspires me. "it'll mean nothing in 100 years time" -
The best thing to do is to focus your energy and attention on other things. don't feel compelled to replace one relationship with another - move toward the arts, music, athletics, personal growth or career. Be dependent on yourself and never think you will only be whole in a relationship. Relationships are the gravy, but not the meal.
2007-03-17 17:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can move on; it's just taking some time. You're doing the right things to move on. You are moving forward. Now, just don't look back, be patient, and he will be locked in the past before you know it.
2007-03-17 17:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it's 100% normal to feel that way. but the feelings will eventually fade away. don't worry abt getting back together, he's a history...take care of urself.
2007-03-17 17:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have the right approach i think im still stuck on mine i luv him........at least ur tryin to move on and u know ur worthy i admire that of u........just keep doing what ur doing..........u'll find someone................and they will be even better and u'll realize the way he treated u wasnt half what u really deserved
2007-03-17 17:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. You were proably really attached to him. Its normal you will survive
2007-03-17 17:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes gay and yes its normal
2007-03-17 17:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by Christina. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋