I have a great job working for a fortune 500 company, I earned a bachelor's degree from an accredited University, I have my own apartment, my own car and plenty of goals that I am looking to fulfill.
I have a great sense of humor and love to laugh. I'm not overly sensitive at all. I'm secure and don't mind my guys hanging out with friends. I don't call to check up on them when they are out.
I call my guys on a daily basis, or e-mail, or text. In some cases I've had sex rather quickly. In other cases, I made it known that I wanted to wait on a sexual relationship.
I don't discriminate. I date men of all races and ethnicities. I find that their feelings for me and their level of respect for me is most important. I'm not a party woman but I don't mind going out from time to time.
My "relationships" can't seem to go on for longer than a month. I've been told that I'm very confident and attractive. I'm physically fit and just a strong, but kind person. What am I doing wrong?
2007-03-17 17:39:04 · 8 answers · asked by Ins2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's great that you are so put together. However, after the initial attraction wears thin, the guys might feel like they have nothing to contribute to your life. Then they exit. If you are looking for a life's partner then you may want to consider what attributes you are looking for in a partner. If they have nothing to contribute that will enhance your life, then where do they fit?
It also sounds as though it needs to be all about you. "I find that their feelings for me and their level of respect for me is most important." What about your feelings for them and your level of respect for them?
Relationships are not easy and mutual honesty and respect are very important.
Perhaps it's time for a bit of honest reflection on your life, what type of relationship you want and then determine what aspects in a guy you need to enhance your life. Then date only men who have those qualities.
2007-03-17 18:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you could be a little to focused on yourself? Don't get me wrong there is nothing bad with being confident, but it seems like you talk allot about your self from what I can see based on how you posted your question. As I read your question I was trying to figure out what the problem was and realized you wrote "I" 19 times that's not including "MY". Now I could be wrong, but you didn't really explained who ended the relation ship or what some of the reasons where. For all we know you could be just dating the wrong guys or/and for the wrong reasons.
2007-03-17 17:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with you from what I read. BUT... I will tell you this.... guys don't like to be with someone that got it all. They like to be the ones to make more money, to take care of their woman, to be the "man" of the house if you get my drift. Its not you, its that they are stupid to feel threatened by your "power" that you and I know are not there. Its a guy thing but don't worry hun... there will be the one guy who will come along and respect you and admire the fact that you have accomplish so much. Be patient.... it will happen just dont settle for the first guy to come along too quick or if he is someone you can tolerate. You deserve the best. Good luck!
2007-03-17 17:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by bwtiger0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for sure your apprehensive. in case you ignore about it it ought to blow up on your face and in case you %. a wrestle it can make you appear like the undesirable guy. the great element is to communicate along with your boyfriend and tell him your concerns. pay interest to his area of the tale on why he's protecting contact at the same time with her for therefore long. He feels like a very good and functional guy so he will understand why your apprehensive. be particular you enable him be conscious of you suspect him, its in simple terms you do not opt to lose him. i wish this facilitates and that it fairly works out!
2016-11-26 19:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you're not my long lost twin???? I have exactly, I mean exactly the same problem - I can't figure it out! The men who are attracted to me is usually for all the wrong reasons and the men who I am attracted to either just want to be friends or ignore me! I don't get it!! If you get a resoluton, please email me. Good luck!
2007-03-17 17:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Females always say "I've been told" this or that - which means they are leaving information out
Sorry to say most guys don't care what job, degree, apartment etc women have -its really not about that
2007-03-17 18:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by JET99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you scream to men "I dont need you I can do it own my own." And they pick that up, they take the hint and leave you alone?
Even if you are the breadwinner, and you drive a nicer faster car, a man wants to know you need him.
2007-03-17 17:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Too easy, too available, too masculine, too independent, too many guy friends. Sorry, but I don't see anything feminine about you that a man would find attractive. You kind of sound like a dude.
2007-03-17 17:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋