Do you agree or diagree that men never reach emotional maturity no matter their age?

Question

First I love males because I have a father and two grandfathers plus a boyfriend slightly younger than me. He's still 17 and I turned 18. What I noticed of the males in my life is that they retain a certain dependency on their wives which borders on the juvenile. My mother and my grandmother often have to make doctor's appointments for them and inevitably accompany them to speak to the doctor otherwise they would not go to the doctor. My dad and his friends have this fascination with football and often watch it. They like to come to my house and watch it on Monday and my boyfriend gets into the act with them. Lately they haven't been doing that because either my dad lost interest in football (hope against hope!!) or they stopped having it. They jump around and yell and drink beer and eat real spicy food and do I have to continue. My mom tell me to lighten up. My dad has romantic interests (according to my mom) but he needs quit the junk food or his thing wont stiffen for her.

My mom didn't share intimate details about their relationship as husband and wife but simply stated that he's still romantic and loving. I was trying to make a point that a sign of immaturity is to eat foods that could diminish your health and your capacity to please your partner. As a big girl I know that a man needs to be stiff to please his partner but a poor diet can take away the ability to do so. and his own pleasure.

Answer 1

You're asking two different questions.

First, it's true that men are always less emotionally mature than women their own age. That's why ideally you'll want a man a couple of years older than you. A 17 year old guy is about where you were a year or two ago in emotional terms.

Secondly, the things that you describe that guys do aren't signs of emotional immaturity. A love for sports (or sci-fi, or politics, or whatever) is part of the natural male tendency toward competition and aggression. Men evolved this way because nature favored males who were inclined to kill the saber-toothed tiger that threatened him and his young, instead of negotiating with said tiger while it ate him. As such, men will always find some fun in an activity or interest that involves aggression. You'll just have to deal with it.

The whole doctor thing is interesting. I also hate going to the doctor. Perhaps it's also that men just don't like to admit that they're physically vulnerable. As far as appointments go, yes, you'll always be the one handling those things. Men are horrible multitaskers. It's just the way we're wired. Early man learned to focus all of his energy on one big task at a time (hunting, killing predator, etc).

These are just the ways men are hard-wired. It's been this way for millions of years and, no offense, but it isn't going to change just because it annoys you. Just accept it and move on.

Answer 2

This all depends on what your definition of maturity is. Haveing fun is not the oposite of emotionaly mature. In fact an emotionaly mature person will be in touch with all of their emotions, especialy fun.

In my opinion, a person is emotionaly mature if they deal with their emotions in a healthy manner and are able to become emotionaly intimate especialy with their significant other but on a certain level with others as well. By this definition, I know many men who are emotionaly mature.

As for the dependency thing, I believe that those who are more dependent insie of a relationship are the more mature. These are the people who recognise their emotional weak points and depend on their spouse to strengthen them in that area. This is a big part of what relationships are about, depending on each other where each falls short.

If your definition of an emotionaly mature person is one that is self reliant and strong in all emotional areas, then you will never meet an emotionaly mature person, male or female. The person who claims to be this way are the most imature of all.

(p.s. It is kind of disterbing that your mother would talk about such an intimate detail outside of the relationship with someone who is not a doctor.)

Answer 3

It's not that men don't mature, it's just that women forget how to have a good time. They get all sour and over-serious about everything. It's right about that time that you'll hear them complaining that their partner has lost interest in them for no reason.

I went though that with a few women already and I refuse to act old and miserable just to please some woman's sense of what maturity should be. If you want someone that stiff, go dig up my grandpa.

Answer 4

First, your mom (in my opinion) should not have shared that private tidbit of info about your dad and her with you. Yes, guys do depend on us women, to a point. And yes, men do at some time (usually) in their lives mature enough. However, men are happier and live longer when they are married.Not because they depend on the woman, but the companionship is pretty good. Take care.

Answer 5

It really depends on who you talk to im not much into doing all kinds of stupid stuff over a game but most people have the matue self then party mode in the back of the head wanting to get out but you just have to understand that when men or some women do that stuff they mostley just want to have fun

Answer 6

They are dependant because women of your mom & granny's age were trained to make them dependant.

They are all different--like all women are.
But at least the men in your life have kept their sense of FUN---without that, any marriage is doomed.
And FYI, I am a 46 year old woman, not planning to achieve maturity EVER before I die.
That childish sense of FUN is what makes life worth living, and don't you ever forget it!

Answer 7

The only difference between men and boys is the price of their toys

Answer 8

i smell a springer episode but you are smarter than that and a good speller good luck