How are ladies supposed to make a man feel needed yet still give men a chase?

Question

I've read a lot about relationships. I understand that men want to feel needed. Yet I also read that men like a chase, and for their women to always remain a little hard to get. So tell me, how does a woman keep her irresistable appeal her while also letting her man know he's important and needed?

Answer 1

In simple terms: don't try to do both at the same time.

Also, don't put too much stock into the hard to get business. It's one thing not to cling. It's another thing to play so hard to get that the guy decides he doesn't want to play. I'm a single guy, and I can tell you from experience: I don't have time for contrived behavior and women that second guess what I am thinking and women trying to manipulate how I feel. You can spot it from a mile away, and I simply don't play when I run into this.

So, how do you avoid all this, and still inspire interest from a guy:
1. Do you own thing sometimes. Don't be unavailable for the sake of being unavailable, but don't sit by the phone or keep every day free hoping for a date. If he's interested, he'll find a time that matches up.

2. Meet each others emotional needs, but don't coddle each other.

3. If the chance to go out with someone else pops up, feel free, until the level of commitment makes it inappropriate. However, dropping hints or making it obvious that you have another date sounds like a desperate bid to inspire jelousy, and will actually work against you. Just do your own thing and let the relationship grow. Time together will increase as the desire to be together grows and becomes a higher priority.

The bottom line on being needed is: if you show a sincere interest in a guy, he will feel needed. It's not necessary to have a problem that needs to be solved on any kind of regular basis. Life is hard enough and will provide these opportunities without worrying about his need to be needed.

Bottom line on hard to get is: Just let the relationship grow. If you are solid in your own sense of self, do your own thing, but make time for him when you have it, and don't let yourself fall too fast, then, the process of courting and falling for each other, and the busy-ness of trying to work a job and take care of life's responsibilities will make it hard enough. Having a woman intentionally make it harder will inspire nothing but frustration and loss of interest from a normal and emotionally healthy guy.

Good luck.

- Kevin

Answer 2

Very good question but the truth is what the magazines and books dont tell u is to jus be yourself. I have met men who slept with a woman the first da they met and fell in love with her. And i have met men who at the smallest hint will think a woman is desperate and choose at that moment not to like her at all. Men are very stupid sometimes and jus as confused as women when it comes to relationships so the best thing you can do it be yourself and let someone love you and find your natural personality appealing not what some dumb books says.

But for ur notes men who wants the chase are not in love yet, men who want to feel needed are in love.

Answer 3

I know this isn't common knowledge among women, but pretty much every guy I know would actually prefer that women not be hard to get. I think it's women that like the chase, because they like to feel that they're worth it. Men are lazy creatures. If women were just flocking to us, we'd be perfectly happy with it.

Answer 4

First it depend who the man is cause when my friend plays hard to get im not really intrested i like the relation ship where both of us feel wanted like messages and baths and stuff like that together

Answer 5

Let him call you, and be happy to hear from him. Go on a date, but don't sleep with him. Let him treat you like a lady, and be appreciative. Don't constantly call, text, email, or IM him, let him make the moves. And when he does, act happy.

Answer 6

Men are confusing just like women. If you get a decent answer...get back at me

Answer 7

she has to be a girl ...not a lady. ladies dont like chase games in the end they suck! peace

Answer 8

Tell him how good he makes you feel, if you miss him let him know how much.

Answer 9

You don't do both at the same time ,,,, You can't make him do anything until you've hooked him ,,,,,lol