am in love with my best friend but he thinks he is a rebound am i crazy?

Question

I have known him for over 15 years, he used to be my husbands best friend, over the years he and i became good friends, My husband has cheated on me over the years, when this would happen i would run to him and his wife (he has been divorced for 4 years now) This last october i found out he was cheating again, he left and i filed for divorce , i called my friend about two weeks later and he ended up telling me over the next two weeks that he has had feelings for me for the last 15 years We started seening each other in Mid november we see each other about every two weeks we live four hours apart, Now he thinks he is the rebound because i left that relationship and went to him so quick, i told him it was easy to leave because i was done with my marriage because i was done with his cheating and i was done with him. I love him and have always thought so much of him i dont want to loose what we have. He has always been there for me.

Answer 1

ok well i can only speak from what i know. I've been in my fair share of sh*t relationships, and everytime i've come out of one i jump into another...most have worked out bad. there were things about me i just didn't know....but there was one guy who was my friend through all of it, i've known him for years and he's always been the one to hear my trouble and want to help. one night without thinking I told him I loved him and i found out later it was the first time he had ever heard it before. I had gotten into a relationship with a scum bag and my friend was still there, nearly got married to the douche; and it was then that my friend decided to lay it out there, guess he thought he was going to lose me forever. he said he loved me and he always had and he told me that he loved that he was the one i ran to when i was in need of a friend, yes there can be rebound but some are more...he was, i stayed in my crap relationship even though i knew my friend loved me, i couldn't see myself being that woman who drops men for the next one who comes along...boy i wish i had. he cheated on me and took a lot of my money...and all i had was the arms of my friend to crawl into...he promised me that he could see me for who i was and that he loved me for what he saw, that never again would i go through what he has seen me suffer through and if i just gave him the chance he would make it right...he thinks he's the rebound then show him he's not, let him know that he's been there and seen you even when your own husband( ex now) wouldn't and that you've loved him for as long if not longer than he's loved you.

Answer 2

Dont rush it since you both have been divorced you know he just might want to take it easy so just take your time and dont rush if you rush you ill push him away